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Broken332 (original poster new member #62408) posted at 8:10 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
We have been separated now for a little over 4 months. I feel like I can breathe again and can't remember when I last cried over all of this. He doesn't want the divorce, but I believe he is beginning to accept it. I'm at the point where I believe wholeheartedly that I'm doing the right thing by divorcing him. Being out from under all of his lies..... I feel peace. Yesterday was our wedding anniversary, and when I thought about it there was no sadness! Just that feeling of "ah, I'm getting out." When he was leaving after seeing the kids yesterday he said, "I wish today could have been different for you." I didn't feel anything. I said, "Well, you made your choices to do the things you did, so it is what it is."
I know I'll most likely have relapses of anger and hurt, and I am lonely, but I never thought I'd feel at peace with this.
If you are on here and struggling, you can do this. You will get to the point where you will be OK. One day at a time. I know the support on here has helped me immensely! 
Me - BS 38
Him- WS 39
Two amazing young kids.
D-day - 11-16-17
Separated and on the way to divorce
I can't change his actions, but I choose to be happy despite them.
skins21 ( member #61643) posted at 8:29 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
Broken: My 6yr anniversary was last Sunday. There wasn't even a mention of it from her or me. It just passed as any other day. We have our first mediation appointment on Saturday. She has been sad and depressed all week and told me she doesn't want the divorce. She just wants to separate and figure things out. I'm just done. When I made my mind up about finally divorcing her it was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I'm not longer angry at her or OM. I'm just relieved that this nightmare will be over soon. I'm just trying to survive one day at a time until I'm free again!
ME: BS 36
WW 35
EA/PA for 3.5 years
DD 1/26/17
Together for 13 years, married for 6
Divorcing after the house sells.
SuperDaddy1027 ( member #59344) posted at 9:03 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
Broken for only being 4 months out you are doing great (based on your post). Be proud of yourself.
April will come as what would have been my 11 year wedding anniversary (2nd year since Dday and without XWW). Like u said the day comes and goes. I felt “down” but it was only for a few minutes. I’ve accepted what has happened. Like u said “It is what it is”
I am now officially divorced. It is a sad story. I hate my kids are growing up in 2 houses. I hate that XWW and I “didn’t make it” but it is what it is.
Stay Strong Broken, chin up and be proud of yourself.
Reese1 ( member #62724) posted at 9:22 PM on Thursday, March 29th, 2018
Mine was a couple weeks ago. I thought I would be a mess- especially since I still regularly cry about the entire situation but on the actual day I just felt nothing. Not sad, not angry, just nothing.
BW-31 Wh-33
DDay1- January 12 2018
Married 3 years. Together 8. Daughters 3 and 9 months at DDay. 3 year LTA PA and multiple other PA and EA during LTA. Divorce final.
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