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Thank you for your thoughts. Yeah, I have no idea who she is anymore. She just went to a concert overnight, that he was at to. I'm sure they met up and did there thing. She came back home and was super aggressive/angry with me. Lawyer doesn't want me to move out until there's a parenting plan in place....just keep drudging along until I can get out. Kids are doing well...cancer seems to be getting it's ass kicked at this point.

She's not my problem anymore, other than the difficulty she's creating with the divorce

Glad the cancer is getting its ass kicked. Great news. Hope you documented her going out all night. Fight for your right to be a 50/50 parent or better. You should have all the proof of her leaving time and again leaving you as sole care giver of the children. Sounds like your lawyer is very passive. You may want to look at some other lawyers. Keep moving forward. Keep us updated. We will try to help you if we can.

There is a well known mental health issue that affects caregivers of the chronic ill. To me your WW is in deep depression and is probably clinically mentally ill. That doesn't make anything she did or does right, it means you have to be vigilant as to the best interests of your child.

Look into this please.

It's a no fault state so none of that matters. I'm not looking for any more than 50-50. They're her kids too and she is a good caregiver.

She broke a bit last night and said 50-50 would work, so hopefully that continues and we can work towards a resolution to all this.

Sucks it came to this, but I'm more valuable than how Ive been treated. Extra sucks that I learned how worthelss I was to her during this difficult time.....when I needed that person most

When you need that person the most, she showed how weak she was. Your giving her too much credit for being a caregiver when she routinely escapes to go be with POSOM. How caring it that? You two were supposed to be each others rock in hard times And she cracked. You had to dig deep into your self to find the strength to cope with your sick child. Your WW. Your job. Your other children. And she has the nerve to say your not worthy of 50/50. What is going to happen once she has them without you there? Call you and ask you to take them so she can go play girlfriend?

I still think you should at least talk to another lawyer to see if your present one is doing all he can to look out for your interests.

Keep moving forward. Your on your way out of infidelity.

I couldn’t agree more with NoOptTo. You better take her off that pedestal. A good mother does not betray the family, especially during a crisis.

You have proven by your actions that you’re the loving dad. While you’re standing in the gap for your family, she’s out disgracing herself with a married POS.

Years later your kids will find out all of what went down during the time that little brother was fighting cancer. It always eventually comes out. Daddy was home with family trying to hold us together and Mommy was out whoring.

So let her walk around all hauty and with that cocky false sense of confidence that waywards have. There will come a time when she will look back at how disgusting she’s been. How when she was put to the test, she failed miserably.

Her behavior after the concert?

Go back to my post on page 7. It’s panning out EXACTLY as I predicted.

She needs a villain. She needs to justify her actions to herself.

Don’t fall into feeding her justification.

LD,

Hope your weekend went well with yi ou and your kids LD. I hope that we are not scaring you away with our concerns and projections. We have been there before you. You are inthe middle of this shitstorm and maybe missing a few things you should be addressing. We says these thing cause we want to you to heal.

Til you want to update us, vent your struggles, or seek support, we are here. Continue being that great dad and I hope your boy continues conquering his cancer.