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I really really do!! And I am completely aware of the petty nature of this post and I do not care!!

Quick background: December of 2016, 18mos out from DDay, WW (now ex) informs me she "doesn't see a way forward" for us. (That she was unwilling to take any responsibility for the A was of course unrelated to that.) She takes back up with AP in January of 2017. I file for D at the end of January. AP shits on her again, natch, in April. July-ish, she pops up in my OLD feed while we are still living together working through the D, commenting after I mention it that she didn't "know what she was doing" with OLD. (Literally, "I don't know what I'm doing! I don't know what I'm doing!") September-October 2017, she's dating some different guy. Vacations together, overnights, heart emoji texts, the whole bit. (Another victim as I saw it!) Does this seem like the timeline of an emotionally healthy individual?

Would anyone like to guess who popped up in my OLD matches today, June of 2018?? You guessed it, the ex. (D finalized in March this year.) I truly, truly hope whoever this guy was, he shit on her too and that it hurt. A lot.

Does this make me a bad person? I'm smiling at her possible pain. This would be the one person in the world I would wish this on.

Poor muffin.

Just realize that deep down that's who she is. Keep that loser as far out of your life and you can.

Kharma if there is such a thing is best watched from afar.

Does this make me a bad person?

Only if it also makes ME a bad person to believe that xpos being M to slut is Karma for the person he was to me and our family, is now, and always will be. Certainly seems to be so far!

I wish the same kind of hurt on him that you wish on your ex, so I guess we are both the same kind of person....

You can come sit next to me anytime! I will cheerfully join in with the petty joy of watching Karma kick our ex's asses any day of the week!

Karma is always an Academy Award winning movie! Box Office smash!

Some days, I hope to see this Karma too, but right now I think they are going to have the fairy tale ending.

I;m glad you got it though! Gives me hope

YES!!! If Karma (or Kharma) forgives me for calling her a bitch, I may kiss her full on the mouth!!

If I'm reading between the lines on the exWW OLD profile, yep. Last guy dumped on her. "Burned by OLD before by people pretending to be what they are not."

Is glee wrong???

The real Khama is when you find someone better.

Won't take much

I'm trying to live knowing that karma will catch up with him. Despite what he thinks, I know him extremely well, even better than his mistress. I know he will do whatever it takes to keep that relationship going, because he won't be able to stand having a failed marriage because of her, and then failing her relationship with her. Lucky for him, she'll stay with him, because she was digging for gold, and even tho they have terrible arguments, she wants her payday.

Everytime he tells me how hard certain aspects of his life are, I remind him how I used to organize or fix things for him, and now he should be happy to ask his mistress to help him. He gets so angry, but shouldn't he be able to lean on his soulmate in times of need?

Also, anyone seen those hilarious karma's a bitch vids on YouTube?

I want a front row seat with a box of popcorn in my hands when karma catches up with my STBXH. Most likely, I will hear about it after the fact. It was obvious that a bit caught up with him before he moved out.

It is normal to want to see our ex spouses get theirs so no, that doesn’t make you a bad person. If you actively participate, then that puts the bad karma on you.

Enjoy the show!

And . . . . . . . . damn. There it is.

The feeling or thought to reach out. Do something nice to try to make her feel better. Invite her over for Father's Day dinner (I have the boys this weekend). Not because it would be an attempt to rekindle something. But because I was trained to think this way over two decades of abuse by a narcissist.

Saying it here aloud drives home what she is and what she did to me. As much as I love roller coasters, this one I can do without. Boy, the waywards really do a number on us, don't they? I feel better now that I've recognized it and given it voice.

"Burned by someone pretending to be what they were not"...like a cheating spouse?

How does she not see the irony of this? She feels betrayed and she is the victim? Crap like this shouldn't surprise me, but it still does.

Sometimes it can take a long time. A decade after I left the cheater he was married with two adorable young children and making a ton of money. I was struggling and in a bad place.

I guess he still has his money but that’s all. His wife has cheated as much as he has. He’s old and in very poor health. His son at 35 has never held a job. His daughter is literally a whore. She gives massages with happy endings and extras at a place in Nevada where it is legal.