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Please get counseling for codepedency.

I can deal with each one easily if I wanted to. Put them to their wives immediately. But, it’s their cross to bear what they have done. I don’t give a shit about them

We don't care shit about APs. But we care a lot about other betrayed spouses. Who continue "bearing the crosses" that their WHs put on them without knowing. And no, APs currently aren't bearing any crosses. They are living their lives free of consequences.

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Your wife has a history. There seems to be no consequences... since she has done it again and again.

My advise, file for D (at least have that leverage to use, find out why your such a doormat, and if you must continue with someone who so easily gives it up, set some clear boundaries and have the balls to follow through with threats. herein lies the key to getting some power back. Right now you are the doting hubby who just takes her back whenever she messes up

Sorry to hear about your situation Mene.

Just a note...Men can't 'prey' on a woman unless the woman wants to be 'preyed' upon. In other words, men can flatter and woo a woman all day long but in the end it's the woman's choice as to whether she'll drop her pants for them. The woman has all of the control in a cheating situation so unless the men are in jail for rape, your wife was the one who chose to have sex with those men. Also note that she didn't stop at one; she had at least three men that you know of. The other men aren't the problem, your wife saying 'yes' to them is the problem.

Also, as others have noted, telling the OBS is the right thing to do. Would you want them to tell you if they found out first? I suspect your answer would be 'yes'. Have enough respect for the OBS's to tell them what's happened.

I hope you get through this trauma and come out a better person on the other side. It's a difficult and painful journey. Take care of yourself and your son.

Meme:

Based on your last post you seem to have your head on straight. Whether you ultimately decide to R or D is totally up to you. You know your WW better than any of us and your plan is to hold her accountable. Good for you. But I do believe you have an obligation to inform the OBS’s. They have a right to know they have been living a lie. You were not involved in any pact not to tell. A cheaters pact is worthless anyway. Please expose to the OBS. Strength to you going forward.