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So your daughter thinks that her brother being F'ed over is "none of her business"?

Sounds pretty selfish if you ask me. He's her brother for crying out loud.

Listen, all she has to do is go and tell him what she's heard and than let him do whatever he wants with that info. She doesn't need to give him advice or what she would do. She needs to tell him (actually say these words to him) "because she loves him and she has his back and that if the roles were reversed that she would want him to tell her".

^^^Agree with Booyah.

She can provide him with what she knows then allow him to figure it out on his own.

I had a similar situation with my teenage son over 15 years ago. Some things never change.

I don't have any magic words but as a parent you need to tell your son what he needs to hear (not what he wants to hear). We did and it was ultimately for the best.

His mother (with sister present to confirm) should tell him as gently as possible something like: kids his age are too young to be exclusive... that they need to meet others in order to find the best partner. And segway into the message that his 'girlfriend' sees other boys and he should be seeing other girls.

I doubt he knows. Our relationship is okay.

I cant believe it happens every other day though SMH

So your daughter thinks that her brother being F'ed over is "none of her business"?

Sounds pretty selfish if you ask me. He's her brother for crying out loud.

Listen, all she has to do is go and tell him what she's heard and than let him do whatever he wants with that info. She doesn't need to give him advice or what she would do. She needs to tell him (actually say these words to him) "because she loves him and she has his back and that if the roles were reversed that she would want him to tell her".

Shes always been like this.

The majority of us here are going to give you the advice that he needs to know.

We had a man come on here a while back.

His mother had kept the fact that his girlfriend was cheating on him a secret.

When he did finally find out, he was hurt so bad. He wasn't just hurt with his girlfriend's action, but more so his mother and I believe his sister's.

This kind of pain is unfathomable.

As far as not finding help on here, that's just the way it is on the weekends.

Weekends can be notoriously slow.

Mainly because everyone who responds to these posts are volunteers.

I myself have 2 children and an extremely busy weekend life.

When did this happen?

should tell him as gently as possible something like: kids his age are too young to be exclusive... that they need to meet others in order to find the best partner. And segway into the message that his 'girlfriend' sees other boys and he should be seeing other girls.

Don't think that's a good message to give.

Thats different lol

Beckiboo72, someone else may be familiar with the young man's story and be able to point you in the right direction. I believe it's been within the past year or so though.

The point of my message though, is that it caused a riff that may have destroyed their relationship forever. It was horrible.

Your son in being made a fool of, and you know it

Blunt advice...sit him down and tell him everything you know. Tell him who the guy is,and that his sister was told. You need to do it today. Right now. His life is at risk. Who knows who else she is having sex with,or who else the guy is having sex with. Your son is being exposed to potential deadly STDs. You're his mother, not his buddy. He may be angry with you for telling him,at first. But that's ok. Eventually he will understand.

Right now, you're looking the other way had enabled the cheating. You're helping her cheat on your son by keeping the secret.

You don't need a forum to tell you to put your son's health and well being first. Right?

So stop. And tell him. Now.

Why are people so afraid of the truth…

“Hey son. Sit down. Have a glass of milk. I heard this rumor that your GF Becky is dating Brad. Supposedly it happens every other day. It’s being talked about at school. I don’t know if its true or not but I know this is what people are saying. You need to get to the bottom of this because either you need to deal with the cheating or you need to deal with the rumormongers. No matter what it is then remember you can ALWAYS get help and guidance from me. Want some cookies with the milk?”