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New Beginnings :
Those awkward moments..

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Jada4Max ( member #43987) posted at 2:58 AM on Wednesday, October 3rd, 2018

I don't know if the cultural differences you are speaking of have to do with being "southern", but that definitely is how we do it in the south.

At least my family and every family that I know. We get the plates for the kids so they don't make a big mess or break something. And then we are just happy to fix a plate for our husband. We don't make him eat anything he doesn't want - like it was said, we ask what they would like.

Just like if we are cooking and needing to lift a heavy pot, a husband or SO would stand up and run over to help us.

It's not so much "waiting on" someone, as just enjoying serving someone that you love.

LBC,

Most of my family hail from the south and this is pretty much what happens at our large family gatherings. Although, one of my great-aunts would probably fix the plates for the kids to help single daddy out.

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 LilBlackCat (original poster member #57470) posted at 6:02 PM on Wednesday, October 3rd, 2018

I'm southern as well, but when reading LilBlackCat's post, I just assumed he was Hispanic. Maybe you have mentioned that before LBC? Or maybe when you said cultural I assumed you were Latino because it sounded like my Mexican co-worker's gatherings because the women take care of the men and children in group events.

Yes, I am Hispanic/Latino

And yes, in the past.. would step up and help if WW needed assistance with lifting or opening something.. Hell, in certain family meals.. I was the designated egg beater, or turkey cooker.. Yan can cook!

and like I mentioned before, it was out first large family gathering since everything that has gone on.. So maybe next time, I won't even notice or feel anything awkward anymore.

Me: BS 43 (Now 50)
Her: WW 37
18 M, 19 Together
4 Children, youngest is now 9.

Divorce Final as of 9/3/19.

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Heart ( member #56144) posted at 7:09 PM on Wednesday, October 3rd, 2018

Me too. I am Southern and we just normally do this as a loving act.

Happily Free Now
Me.... former betrayed wife


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