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Hurtstomycore ( member #58527) posted at 1:52 PM on Saturday, September 29th, 2018
Others have given you great advice that is real, honest, and practical. I echo all of that. I just wanted to tell you that I am so sorry you and your children have been treated this way. It is horrifying and completely disgusting.
Me: BS with a heart that is broken.
Him: WS 53 Dday: 4/29/17
porn addict, escalated to sex ads, then multiple email partners, + 1 phone sex partner for 20 months. Told her he loved her, thought she was 25, our DD's age. Yuck. She catfished him,
sherril2291 ( new member #63360) posted at 11:11 PM on Sunday, September 30th, 2018
I was with my husband for 17 years. I would have sworn that nothing could have rocked our marriage - we were that good. But people change, and after 10 years of fighting tooth and nail to make or encourage the "old" husband to come back out, I finally had to realize he wasn't there anymore. That doesn't mean the beginning years weren't good, or cause me to think I never knew him - those years were real and precious and I won't forget them. But the traits that were revealed later were in him all along, simply lying dormant because personalities don't change when the going gets rough. Your husband may truly want to change his behaviors, but if I were you, I'd watch from a distance and let him do the work for himself.
isthisreal2018 (original poster new member #66311) posted at 2:09 AM on Monday, October 1st, 2018
Thank you for your reply Sherrill2291. So your husband didn’t shape up? Did you divorce? I know what every one here says is true and it’s all good advice. Still hard to take. I have since Friday blocked him on the phone. It’s #1 just too hard to get a hey how are you text (how the heck do you think I am) just to keep stringing me along like he did his good deed for the day, and #2 to wait for him to call or text and feel sad and worried when I don’t hear from him. I feel more in control of myself by blocking him. I have a lawyer and I think I just need to make that call and tell her to proceed. He is still lying about little things, so i think there are bigger things too that he has just gotten better about Hiding from me. And I know the old H will not come back. He is too self consumed to think about what I need from him to move forward. I’m tired of playing detective. It’s been 5 months and I’ve seen nothing positive, heard a lot BS promises that haven’t been followed through on, and whole lot more of negative stuff and lying. I think I’ve waited long enough. Any advice?
27 years of marriage
Son 25. Daughter 22
D-day: 05/03/18
Ripped62 ( member #60667) posted at 2:43 AM on Monday, October 1st, 2018
What would you tell your son or daughter if their spouse was the age of your husband and....
1. Solicitated sex with others on line repeatedly.
2. kept 20+ year olds in an apartment and provided them economic support in a relationship that is prostitution.
3. Did not stop seeing the prostitutes when confronted on multiple occasions.
4. Did nothing to address the wayward behavior and fix what was missing inside themselves that enabled them to repeatedly commit adultery.
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