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Hurting8264 ( new member #56802) posted at 8:25 PM on Friday, October 5th, 2018
I have been there. I feel like I have some answers to some of your questions and wish I could share them. But last time I posted some answers that I thought would help. Ones I wish someone would have shared with me, my comment got deleted and I got a warning.
All I will say is there are some things you can do that will help some but not in all areas. And I dont think you will ever feel the same about her. But those kids are worth sticking it out for. If you decide to leave, leave when its best for you to do so. For the best situation for you. She shouldn’t get to cheat and then you get punished.
AbandonD4Purpose ( new member #65494) posted at 7:59 PM on Monday, October 8th, 2018
It sounds like you are a good guy with a good heart. These images in your mind are enough to make anyone sick. I've found relief in a couple different ways: prayer/bible reading, Christian counseling, and a mentor. Have you considered any of the these options? Sometimes we need someone to come along side of us and help lift us up.
Jduff ( member #41988) posted at 9:25 PM on Monday, October 8th, 2018
jgh, I want to share a couple of podcasts links that I hope you find helpful. I'm borrowing them from another thread that was approved by the mods to share with other members. Please take a listen to both -
Episode 21 link:
http://theaddictedmind.com/episode-21-relational-betrayal-trauma-marnie-breecker/
Episode 22 link:
http://theaddictedmind.com/episode-22-relational-betrayal-trauma-marnie-breecker-part-2/
Now, in these podcasts they are talking specifically about wayward husbands who are sex addicts HOWEVER what they describe of a betrayed spouse/partner will very likely hit close to home with you as it did to many of us members. What it will validate is that what you feel now is normal. In fact, it is a form of PTSD.
The grass is always greener.... where the dogs are shitting.
-Soundgarden
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