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The poly clearing has shown you he is still lying...how can you move on....with these lies...your suppose to act on what you learn...he took the poly so you could learn the truth...what did you do with that truth?

Why bother with the poly?

IF you need it again..do it again..knowing twice will convince you...of what you already know..

YOu cant live with lies....My WH never confessed...he told more lies...he continued to cheat and be sneaky...there was no foundation to continue on...that's why I fell out of love...to watch him stare at women, talk to women in front of me, then lie about it...to hide his phone...to make more trips out of town...to be so darn happy and skippy…. he wasn't making me feel safe...and it ended...

It went from denial, to no love, to cruelty to abandonment...no time, did he step up and be a man. This was not appealing to me...Love dies. Its a natural process...

We are suppose to build a new marriage...it cant be buildt when you feel so bad..when you feel lied to...when you don't feel safe...you still think hes lying.

I look back and see the poly as such a small favor...think of all the good it can do to clear the air....Wh agreed...then never went...when I demanded it again later, he moved out.

[This message edited by cancuncrushed at 11:26 AM, April 4th (Thursday)]

OptionedOut, you don't have to stay just because you said you would earlier and signed a post nup. He isn't "trying". He's doing what he believes is just enough to stop you from D'ing him. And it's not even your bottom line - your minimum requirements for staying married - that he is doing because he won't be honest and he isn't going out of his way to prove to you that he's changed from a cheater to a safe partner.

Typically a WS can prove that they will put you first by giving you the whole truth, going to IC/MC, and giving you full access to their phone, email, social media, etc. Is he doing any of these? Or is he just telling you that he won't cheat again?