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Unhappy 47. Outing them both publicly is the best thing you can do.

I put spikes on POSOMs driveway for about 10 months, untill I got caught. I had to go to court, I am on probation for a year, I had to pay for tires and I had to pay a fine. BUT IT WAS WORTH IT! Fuck him!

NTV, thanks for the link! I had forgotten how much fun that was. Gosh, I miss 4Kids so much!

Living well, that been the best revenge. I have a great husband who adores me. ExPOS otoh, last I heard was in a crappy relationship with a woman the same age as his mother, most of his family won't speak to him, and my kid is well over 18, so legally, I can tell him to fuck off and die, should he ever contact me again.

Can't beat that!

I did take some revenge on DDay. Found out my exWW had moved the OM into our home during the separation. After confronting her at her parents' house, I went back to the house, took every last one of OM's things I could find, put them all in trash bags, loaded them up in my car, drove them across town, and threw them in a dumpster.

As for my exWW, I outed her far and wide and the result was her going from the golden child to the family embarrassment, her social circle almost entirely ditching her, and her upward progress at work coming to a screeching halt. Frankly she deserved much worse, but we have to co-parent so I need her functional and not financially destitute.

It is 40 years later and I am still outing him. Because he stalked me and begged me to come back even though he’s been married to the OW all this time.

I retired and moved back to my home town which is about 60 miles from where they live. I have many friends who also know them. I tell all.

Since she lives in another country , there wasn't all that much I could do unless it was online...I found a website called Ripoff Report and I posted an elaborate story , exposing her solicitation of money for sex. extortion , may or may not have told the truth about her accessing customer credit cards and using them for her personal use...her photo is there.

I did this because I know that she subscribes to online data entry freelance websites , in search of work and I wanted to hinder her ability to work

( I actually think this had an impact )

I signed her up for countless newsletters involving delicate and embarrassing topics that I knew would hit her where it hurt....infertility was a sore and painful subject for her...

Since she had worked for OUR company , I gained access to her company owned gmail account , which turned out to be a pandora's box full of her secrets and fantasy life of wanting to marry my husband and have a destination wedding...so I also signed her up for destination wedding venues , honeymoons , very expensive diamond wedding jewelry , gowns...everything she ever dreamed !!

And since she was infertile, she also got signed up for everything baby related I could find...baby registries, mommy and me...

Any embarrassingly private thing she ever googled from 2014 until 2018 was my weapon against her...and I used her personal email and since she and her BF have tried to start up a silly little vending business, I bombard that email address too

I wanted her to always be reminded of what she will never have.

I still want to hurt her and get revenge

Just a question....I didn't really enact any revenge. I have a serial cheater with multiple AP's. Would have taken up alot of time to get each one.

What I'm curious is if acting on these things has helped anyone in their healing?

For literally the last 15 years, when something triggers me or my WH screws up again, I throw away something of his. Jackets, shoes, clothes, jewelry, you name it, I've probably trashed it. It makes me happy to see him desperately trying to find his shit.

What I'm curious is if acting on these things has helped anyone in their healing

I can't say that it helps me with my healing , but I feel the need to get some satisfaction for inflicting pain on her...

She largely walked away unscathed from what she did to me.

I was not a faceless entity , she knew me, she actively chose to try to steal my WH.

I find it hard to live with , knowing that I will never have true satisfaction of witnessing karma bite her in her fat ass

Some of the revenge things I did was

*told her BS

*destroyed anything he had in his apartment that I provided

*spread his expensive toothpaste over every mirror, bathtub, floor etc

*melted his plastic bowls just enough so they leak.

*turned his heat up to 90 and his H20 heater off

*took his computer, left his monitor and keyboard

*made it so that the drawers of his dresser fell out when he pulled on them

*hide the mates to his socks (expensive socks too)

*took his spoons and forks. Left the butter knifes

*took all his stuff out of the freezer/fridge. Left on the counter w/heat on high

*smeared Vaseline on every door knob, drawer, cabinet and tv knobs too

*borrowed the batteries out of all his remotes.

*borrowed the charger to his xbox controller

*cancelled his cell number and made it so he couldn't turn it back on

*Took his cell phone back (I paid the bill)

*Took the oldest car we had and made him drive it, while my 16 year old drove the newer car (his)

Did it make me feel better? hell yes

Did it resolve anything? Nope, but again, I felt better - it got my point across & scared the hell out of his AP.

Adlam!!

*took his spoons and forks. Left the butter knifes 

This is so absurd, I can't stop laughing!