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bpositive (original poster member #5981) posted at 6:35 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2019
Hey all -
Haven't been around in a very long time. Life is pretty great.
Today, however, I touched an old wound of seeing what my XH was up to and learned that he's sold the house we bought together. Someone made a joke about leaving the Boulevard of Broken Dreams behind, and UGH. It just kinda brought the pain of the long separation back. And a need a safe, quiet spot to share and unload for a hot second. I was relieved to see that no real mutual friends who know what transpired "liked" or commented on the post.
Trying to refocus my brain now on wonderful marriage I have now, beautiful kiddo, great job. but just a little thrown. 
"If you're happy and you know it..."
1 in 3 US women die of heart disease. Take charge of your health and your life!
3kids30years ( member #38879) posted at 7:43 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2019
I'm so sorry that the wound is still sore. Some never really heal, and are always a sore spot.
All you can do is move on - and it Sounds like you have!
Refocus, remember and re-engage with now.
BW - 52 on Dday
WH - 53 on Dday
DDay - 3/2/13 - 2:07pm 2+ year EA/PA
TT until 2016 - why do they do that?
Trust is earned, respect is given, & loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any one is to loose all three.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 7:52 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2019
3kids is right- keep looking forward. That house is in the past. Let it retreat back to the past.
Infidelity is truly the gift that keeps on giving... **sigh**
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 11:59 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2019
I see what Bpositive is saying, its NOT the house, its the fact that someone made a comment about Broken Dreams, which it was b/c of the infidelity. Unfortunately, it will probably stay with you until the day that you die.
Moving on as you have, doesn't mean you get to forget the anguish and sorry that you felt, or the loss that you received b/c of infidelity, that part of your life will be with you. You've been heard.
Maybe just get off of FB or whatever app youre on that you get to see that type of post with your EX. I've deleted her and her entire family from my FB and I'm not on social media anyway. That way, you don't have some of those reminders.
inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 1:32 AM on Thursday, May 30th, 2019
It sucks when the past sneaks in and throws us a curve. Especially when we don't expect to feel anything about that past any more.
That comment about the broken dreams, remember this - you created new dreams and made them happen. That's pretty damn amazing. Just like you.
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
bpositive (original poster member #5981) posted at 5:58 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2019
Hi innconu!
Yes - Half Time is right. It's not the house. It's the comment on BLVD of Broken dreams. He's entitled to his version of events, even if they are not the right ones. 
Whatever helps you sleep at night.
Honestly, if I were in his shoes, it has to feel good to let go of the last reminder of our marriage.
"If you're happy and you know it..."
1 in 3 US women die of heart disease. Take charge of your health and your life!
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