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Reconciliation :
Sex is still miserable

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backtonormal ( member #69036) posted at 8:52 PM on Thursday, June 13th, 2019

So many good suggestions already posted. I especially like the EMDR therapy to help with the mind movies.

As for me, I didn't think I could have sex with my husband again and it took A. Very. Long. Time. before I did. But at that point we had gone through so much couples counseling. We were "dating" again. We started to do things together as a couple. We experienced our love for each other in so many new ways so that it just felt so natural and most importantly it felt safe to have sex with him. He was patient and understanding which made all the difference. I wasn't going to just have sex with him because I was afraid he'd go have it somewhere else. He had already done that even when we were having sex. I couldn't live in that fear. He was either going to work and build my trust again or he wasn't and if he wasn't I sure wasn't going to give my body away to him just because he "needed" sex. Thankfully he understood that. Do what you need to do to feel safe, and honest.

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