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LifeSong ( new member #71481) posted at 5:02 AM on Thursday, September 12th, 2019
Dena, I'm right there with you. I had a different perspective in my younger years then grew in the faith while M. I don't want a man who thinks it's okay to hook up. I was M to that! No thanks.
Me: FBW (44 time of 1st A)
M 14 years (time of 1st A)
dday#1 1/2014
dday #2 3/2015 during supposed “R”
Still tried to R until 4/2019
WH was never remorseful
DD7 and 2 adult children from PM
"Illusion never changed into something real."
sleeplessincali ( member #50650) posted at 3:36 AM on Tuesday, September 17th, 2019
I am on the same page as Life Song. Puddle pool or ocean, God will bring the right companion for you, dont compromise.
Me:BS/SAHM on DDAY Oct 31 2015
I'm now a working mom with a BA in Advertising.
Him:Getting better
Change is not easy, but growth demands it.
Striver ( member #65819) posted at 1:39 PM on Monday, September 30th, 2019
I agree that your dating pool will be tiny. Particularly since you are insisting on waiting until marriage instead of just a go slow approach. Plenty of churchgoing, believing men will not want to take this approach.
From a male perspective it would be difficult at this juncture of my life. Plenty of men will believe that your beliefs indicate a lack of sexual interest in them specifically, and you'd happily bend your rules for a different partner.
By the same token, you also run the risk of attracting men whose sexual interest AFTER marriage will also be low to nonexistent. You would need to be careful.
If this is important to you, I would suggest a short courtship period to improve your odds. At this point, this and religious belief will have to be your number one criteria in finding a spouse. Chemistry, etc. is something you will likely need to try and develop. I do wish you well.
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