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He has said that masturbation was not involved and be also said it was more of an ego boost for him because the married couple was in awe of his big penis!

What? and you tolerate that?And pray tell, how did they know he had 'a big penis"? My god.my heart bleeds for you, but enough is enough. How much more humiliation will you endure? you have been treated with so much disrespect and I don't understand why you want to salvage such a demeaning relationship.

And I get it honestly. for whatever reason(s) we ignore the obvious demeaning incidences. What troubles me is that you're willing to accept his BS just to be with him. Why would you want a person like that in your life? You deserve so much better.

And as a side note, I get it when people are put in these situations. Most can't simply tell the other to f..k off. I get that- I really do. Fear is one reason and probably the most powerful. I have been there myself.To see a union suddenly torn and tattered is not what most expected. And then we react.Why? We never seem to get an answer that's reasonable.We're dumb-founded. and then WE think we're going crazy because they suddenly dropped the bomb.

And then we begin to think there's a reason why "we" were at fault. Because that is what they try to escape with. That is the MO that many try to use to blame-shift.And some, sadly believe the BS.I could have done things differently, etc. BS. DO NOT believe that thinking.Guilt and shame suddenly is misplaced.Their attempts at throwing their shortcomings back on you.

NOPE...their projection of doing what they did and they can not stand to accept their own frailties. So? They blame others instead of confronting their own shortcomings."get over it". Nope.My character is unlike yours. I never would have been there to begin with. grow up people!

Perhaps by "grow up", it may be prudent to visit the WS forum. So many stories on the BS forum of people disavowing responsibility.God knows if a visit to the WS forum will change anything. That's assuming that anyone has any inclination to entertain anything outside of their selfish thinking:).

Always a contrast can be good.I've read and then had to take a break.One can not change peoples' thinking- whether emotionally-charged or not.Obviously, life is more complex than we wish, but yet it is what it is.

Decide whether you want the truth and how much that matters to you.Once I found out that my GF deceptively did so much to hide it, I still had no choice. I was asked to leave after so much effort on my part. I was a good person who always thought about her and others.

And then, that was enough for me when I was once again cheated on (see profile). I apologize..your devotion was not appreciated and yet, you're supposed to accept your husband's wanderings?

Your call..I'd rather be by myself than with person who blatantly disrespected and humiliated me.