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Anotheron3 ( member #72565) posted at 10:38 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2020
If I was the other BH, then I'd want to know.
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 11:19 PM on Monday, January 20th, 2020
Good job Shocked!!! We’re proud of you! You did that man a kindness. He can now choose how he’d like to move forward with the necessary knowledge to decide well.
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
Shocked1989 (original poster new member #72241) posted at 3:24 AM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2020
Did you tell your WH? Or are you waiting to hear if he "somehow" finds out OBS now knows ?
I told my WH that I was thinking about telling the OBS before I posted this thread. He doesn’t have any contact with the AP so I wasn’t worried about it. He told me I could do whatever I wanted to in regards to telling this person. He has a home office. I have access to all social media, location access, phone, work email, etc. He answers all my questions and is very open about everything because he is remorseful and wants to R.
I did get a text from AP after her husband confronted her. She seemed a little upset with me. She made her bed......
[This message edited by Shocked1989 at 8:28 AM, January 22nd (Wednesday)]
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
BW (me) 49
WH 58
Married 21 years, 3 kids
d-day November 19, 2019
Duration of A - 18 months
sassylee ( member #45766) posted at 5:34 AM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2020
Poor muffin, it sucks having to lie in the bed she made herself.
My R(eformed)WH had a 5 month EA in 2012
In my 7th year of R
“LOVE is a commitment, not an emotion. It is a conscious act of a covenant of unconditional love. It is a mindset and a thought process.” - BigHeart2018’s Professor
Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 6:10 AM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2020
Well done. Affairs persons are like cockroaches, they thrive in the dark when no one is looking. Exspose it, shine a light on the A and all parties who knew but did nothing. The cockroaches will either scurry t
Back to the dark. Or end the A.
👍
Buffer
Dragonfly123 ( member #62802) posted at 6:36 AM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2020
Oh dear AP not happy huh? Sucks when you have to face consequences for your actions. You did the right thing Shocked. I hope you’re riding this roller coaster as best you can, you’re only a few moths out from dday so do take care of yourself!
When you can’t control what’s happening, challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where the power is.
ThisIsSoLonely ( Guide #64418) posted at 6:51 PM on Tuesday, January 21st, 2020
I told after a year as it really bothered me that I hadn't. When d-day2 happened for me, I told him immediately and I don't regret it.
You are the only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with. Act accordingly.
Constantly editing posts: usually due to sticky keys on my laptop or additional thoughts
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