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Scubagrl ( member #72280) posted at 3:23 AM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2020
My WH's family has a long history of cheating. The strange thing is he only knew about some of it-some he didn't find out about until his affair came out. In the blood maybe?? 
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 10:58 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2020
Yep count me in! Both my parents were cheaters. They were both married to others when they met and divorced so that they could be together (Exit A's). My mom went on to have 3 more A's and they fought all the time. Also saw parents who didn't really love each other.
My children got exactly the same life I grew up with. My STBX has had multiple A's and I had 1 RA after I discovered STBX's first A. I am still having troubles leaving the M (although this time it is financial).
Joy
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fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
veryhurt2018 ( member #65877) posted at 3:30 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2020
My WH's dad was a sex addict (which I didn't know about) and my WH developed a sex addiction too. I would've never married him if I knew about his dad. I found everything out when I talked to my mother-in-law about my husband's cheating. She told me everything about his father who cheated a ton. My family history has never had a divorce and has no cheating that we know of. I wish I met someone that had the same values as I did.
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Me-BW
Him-SAWH
D-Day: 5/9/18
Reconciled - took a whole 5 years to heal
InPurgatory ( member #52668) posted at 4:02 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2020
I found out from my very elderly dad just a few years ago that my mom cheated on him with her (then) boss, beginning in my middle school years and essentially continuing (as an EA at least) until her AP died a couple of years ago. My parents never divorced but they began an IHS when I left for college and my mom moved into my bedroom (her choice). 40 years later, that's still where they are, and my mom has been a real bitch to my dad for all these years, presumably because she thought he was to blame for her unhappiness (her AP never divorced his wife after they were exposed. He just moved out and lived separately from his family until he died). I never knew about any of this, but I found out after I had already been devastated by my WH's affair and had started posting here. It has been difficult for me to spend time with my parents since then, even though I feel guilty for not visiting as much anymore (Dad's 95, Mom's 85). I'm angry with my mom and the fact that she has made life miserable for my dad. My dad refuses to leave her and will not speak ill of her.
Me - BS 59
Him - WS 59
AP - his "friend" (she was 24 when the A started, he was 52)
M 34 yrs, together 39yrs.
2 adult offspring
D-Day#1: 6-29-14 , Final DDay: 5-19-15 (too many others in between to count, due to continued breaking of NC
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