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WaryOptimist (original poster member #19911) posted at 11:19 PM on Friday, April 24th, 2020
After all these years I still doubt and am suspicious of several situations in the past. I know, it's no way to live.
He had a 9-14 month EA/PA, but I feel there's more before and possibly since.
What would you suggest as questions to ask during a polygraph? I think that's the only way I could put my mind to rest.
Paraphrasing from advice on another thread, I have these two:
Have you ever had sexual relations with anyone in addition to OW outside our M?
Have you ever confessed love for another in addition to OW since we have been M?
Your input would be so appreciated.
WO
Me: The faithful one Him: WS 4 incredible, grown kids Married 37 years, together 44 D-Day: April 1, 2006 (yep, April Fool's Day...)Aaaas Yoouuu Wiiiish...
nekonamida ( member #42956) posted at 11:53 PM on Friday, April 24th, 2020
Have you been honest about your account of the A with OW to WaryOptimist?
Something like that is a question frequently asked around here. It's a good catchall for the A you know about.
The examiner will be able to reword any question and include clarification to prevent false positives/negatives. For instance, your WH could honestly answer "no" and pass to a question about sex if he only believes sex counts as penetration and not oral so an experienced examiner will clarify with him ahead of time that it includes ALL sexual activity, penetration, oral, fingering, heavy petting, etc. I think your questions are good already though and will sufficiently put those issues to rest pass or fail.
Marie2792 ( member #44958) posted at 12:33 AM on Saturday, April 25th, 2020
The examiner I hired was excellent and helped me with the questions. Aside from what I knew, I asked were there any other OW in our marriage. I asked about email addresses and apps I didn’t know about. I asked him if OW had tried to contact him after dday, and I asked about a very specific time in our marriage I suspected cheating.
I had four questions I was allowed and they all have to be yes or no. If you google also you may get some ideas to help with your specific needs. Good luck.
Me: BS,48 (41 at dday)Him: WS, 56 (49 at dday)Married 27 years, together 30 Dday : 9/9/14 3 week PA
Flnightmare ( member #71988) posted at 1:17 AM on Saturday, April 25th, 2020
I have also heard that you can create a disclosure questionnaire that has all the specific questions you want answered.
Then one of the lie detector questions is ... were you truthful on every question on the questionnaire?
Me: BS 45
WS: 51 (2 year emotional affair with COW, gambling, porn, 1on1 “outings” with female coworkers, physical encounter with SIL when drunk)
DDay October 2019
WaryOptimist (original poster member #19911) posted at 2:36 AM on Saturday, April 25th, 2020
Wow, thanks to all three of you for writing. Such great information to think on.
I love the questionnaire idea; it's like wishing for 3 more wishes on your original third wish.
Me: The faithful one Him: WS 4 incredible, grown kids Married 37 years, together 44 D-Day: April 1, 2006 (yep, April Fool's Day...)Aaaas Yoouuu Wiiiish...
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