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It just got me to thinking if women were really looking out for each other, why do they all of a sudden get a conscience and want to disclose details, leaving the wife floored at the words and actions of a side of a husband she had no clue about. Where is the remorse during the affair?

In all my years reading here, and of all the remorseful wayward mistresses(at least in my opinion), I don't think that I could name three that told the BS due to their remorse. If anything, they feel that the BS has a right to know, but understand it is not their place to do so.

I don't think remorse has anything to do with it.

Exactly correct...👆if women were looking out for each other then they wouldn’t be sleeping around with our husbands.

These SOWs and COWs could care less about the wives and they are doing it out of anger, resentment with the intent of further ruining the wife and husband marriage.

They are either pissed that the husband chose the wife so they tell them out of spite. Hoping the wife will kick out the husband Of course these loser women are waiting to see if they can be there to insert themselves again.

They are vile and disgusting humans and deserve the wrath of the wife in full force. No mercy.

This thread has opened my eyes to a few things, and clarified an experience from long ago. When WH and I had been married a couple of years, I got a phone call one afternoon from someone who informed me that they had slept with my husband the week of our wedding. At the time, I didn't believe them and I blew it off as someone trying to hurt either me or WH (for what reason, I didn't know):

I remember asking her why she was just now calling, and she said that she was just clearing her conscience.

After reading these posts this morning, I suddenly remembered that she never said "I'm sorry I did this". I also remember that there was silence as I told her I didn't believe it happened.

30+ years later, I now believe that it was real and I have a pretty good idea of who it was. At the time, this person was a friend, but not someone that I spent time with alone. We were always together with our respective spouses. We had been next door neighbors in an apartment for a couple of years, and at the time of the call WH and I had just moved into our first house.

After seeing the above posts, I had an epiphany. I wonder if she was unhappy that she was unable to see him every day and was somehow hoping that if she made trouble for him, he would be free from the marriage. Or that she felt abandoned by him moving away and was looking to hurt him. I will never know. But I no longer doubt my gut feeling about this episode.

A bit off topic here, but I just wanted to compliment you on your user name, notthe sidechchick! Lizzo's music has helped me a lot this past month. I have a DD playlist and she is an important part of it.

In my case she was a woman scorned. She was super pissed that my H came back to the states without even telling her he was leaving. One day he was there and that night he was gone and on his way back.

She messaged me on FB 2 months later and spilled the beans at 3am.

She knew he was married. She knew we have kids and one is chronically ill. She knew all of it and it still didn't stop her.

It also didn't stop her from trying to get him to come back after I told her she could have him and all of his debt, but I would be suing him for alienation of affection and both spousal and child support. 🤷‍♀️and that if she thought she was going to come here on a K1 visa.

She didn't contact me again, for a while. Her friends love to harass me on social media.