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HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 11:07 PM on Monday, July 13th, 2020
relletreknit:
As a husband who was the primary breadwinner by a long shot in our marriage and I also travel, i can assure you that its always worst than you think. Just think about getting a shot in the arm. Its always worst that it actually is.
In your case, you are correct, the wife is going to get more custody, for now. That does not mean forever. Work with your attorney to start that process now, adjusting work schedules.... You can move from 25% to 45% with some work. Also, so what if she is a SAHM. She will have to get her ass back to work at some point. What the others have said is true, the longer you wait, the worst it is. Did you file yet? If not, get on that dude. I would also show them all of the dirty stuff your wife does on the computer to show the judge that she is not fit to be a mom. Just because you live in a no fault state, doesn't mean that mom gets to do online sex all day while kids are around. Do some more snooping and play your cards right. Youll be out of a shitty marriage and eventually build up more time with your kids.
You should also if possible have your kids be witnesses. If they can be a witness for you, with the threats from your wife, that will help your case. Its so unfair how the law works against fathers. Its bullshit.
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 1:47 AM on Tuesday, July 14th, 2020
I don't know what state you are in, but my lawyer told me that unless there was "a damn good reason" my ex would get 50/50 if he wanted it. He's not a druggie or violent so I didn't fight. I just take them as much extra time as I can, which is . . . a lot. Because he has a lot of OTHER priorities. Anyway. Talk to a lawyer. She may be full of shit.
VinST ( member #61493) posted at 5:46 PM on Tuesday, July 14th, 2020
Looks like your wife calls the shots in your home!
The dynamic needs to change sir.
You will need to grow a set and man up. You have to ask yourself why your wife is able to treat you with such disrespect and get away with it. She obviously doesn't regard your leadership and abilities to lead... why? there may never have been any consequences in the past for her behavior.
Time to change that and become the alpha for kids sake. Let her have the POS... and never show sympathy while getting out of the infidelity that she lumped on you.
Good luck
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