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Westway ( member #71747) posted at 5:49 PM on Friday, August 14th, 2020

The first time the OM gives her a black eye she may rethink her poor decisions in life.

Me: 52;

XWW: 50 y.o. serial cheater

Married 22 years, Together 24
2 Daughters: aged 16 and 20
DDay: 9/20/19
Divorced 12/03/20.

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Sanibelredfish ( member #56748) posted at 6:03 PM on Friday, August 14th, 2020

BH, if you had any question about why she’s dragging it out, here’s your answer:

I put down April, she put down "still together".

She wants that 10 year milestone so bad she likely can taste it.

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Hopeful30 ( member #44618) posted at 6:29 PM on Sunday, August 16th, 2020

The 10 year mark also relates to social security. She can claim under your account if you have been married for 10 years.

BS: Me
In reconciliation.
I edit for spelling and clarity
"Do or do not, there is no try." - Yoda

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99problems ( member #59373) posted at 7:41 PM on Sunday, August 16th, 2020

Good for you man. Your life will get a lot better when she's not in it.

Got me a new forum name!<BR />Formerly Idiotmcstupid.<BR />I am divorced, so not as much of an idiot now- 4/15/21,

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Buffer ( member #71664) posted at 7:43 PM on Sunday, August 16th, 2020

Abuse, being physical, financial, emotional, verbal, sexual etc is never acceptable regardless of the circumstances.

One day at a time

Buffer.

Buffer

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MickeyBill2016 ( member #56459) posted at 12:59 AM on Monday, August 17th, 2020

Regarding the SS after ten years does the money she gets come out of his account like a joint asset? Or is there some formula that create more money for her share?

9 years married.
13 years divorced.

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HeavyE ( member #19333) posted at 5:42 PM on Monday, August 17th, 2020

Mickey Bill:

Your question regarding social security benefits does not decrease the benefits that the EX Spouse would be entitled to.

From the Social Security website:

If you are divorced, your ex-spouse can receive benefits based on your record (even if you have remarried) if:

Your marriage lasted 10 years or longer.

Your ex-spouse is unmarried.

Your ex-spouse is age 62 or older.

The benefit that your ex-spouse is entitled to receive based on their own work is less than the benefit they would receive based on your work.

You are entitled to Social Security retirement or disability benefits.

How Much Will Your Divorced Spouse Receive

If you have not applied for retirement benefits, but can qualify for them, your ex-spouse can receive benefits on your record if you have been divorced for at least two continuous years.

If your ex-spouse is eligible for retirement benefits on their own record, we will pay that amount first. If the benefit on your record is higher, they will get an additional amount on your record so that the combination of benefits equals that higher amount.

If your ex-spouse was born before January 2, 1954 and has already reached full retirement age, they can choose to receive only the divorced spouse’s benefit and delay receiving their own retirement benefit until a later date.

If your ex-spouse’s birthday is January 2, 1954 or later, the option to take only one benefit at full retirement age no longer exists. If your ex-spouse files for one benefit, they will be effectively filing for all retirement or spousal benefits.

The amount of benefits your divorced spouse gets has no effect on the amount of benefits you or your current spouse may receive.

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