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Gumdropped (original poster member #40798) posted at 8:40 PM on Monday, July 19th, 2021
Thanks so much whatisloveanyway!!! I had forgotten how to swipe left on an iphone! Apple changes things so often that it's hard to keep up. I'm going to try to get some time on his phone and do some searching for key words!!! He's humming and singing tunes again. In another post I chatted about Narcissists' not being able to keep their excitement concealed when they are getting ego kibbles etc. My WH sings or hums to himself and I discovered the connection a few years back. My spidey senses were really heightened last year when we were all locked down during Covid and the world wasn't a happy place, yet my WH would sing/hum every now and then................
Me: 63 Him 67 finally kicked him out Dec 2021
Gumdropped (original poster member #40798) posted at 5:37 PM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
OMG!!! search those emoji's!!! I was sitting in my car this morning waiting for a line up and thought - why don't I swipe left on my iphone and see if the search feature works on looking for emoji's sent, and it does! I picked an emoji that I have only sent twice in the last month and it pulled up a screen shot of the two messages that I used it on. So now to get my hands on my WH iphone to check out that face-heart eyes emoji. Stay tuned.......
Me: 63 Him 67 finally kicked him out Dec 2021
BreakingBad ( member #75779) posted at 10:42 PM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
The emoji search worked on my own Android too. It brought up texts as old as 2017 that had used the emoji I was searching for...and that was at least 1 old phone ago, maybe 2 phones ago. Impressive!
"...lately it's not hurtin' like it did before. Maybe I am learning how to love me more."[Credit to Sam Smith]
BreakingBad ( member #75779) posted at 11:02 PM on Friday, July 23rd, 2021
Sorry to basically post to my own post so quickly, but I also searched text messages for some words and got texts going back to 2014 that had used that word. Amazing it would go back that far! (I searched "husband" and also "wife.")
BTW, the search will let you do MULTI-word searches, like:
miss you
thinking about you
Caution about multi-word searches: While you will see texts that contain all of the search words, they won't necessarily be in the order you would phrase them together. Example: your search will turn up completely innocuous texts like, "You have been thinking about buying a boat for a long time, but I still say they are too much maintenance."
Anyway, great tool, Gumsdropped!
"...lately it's not hurtin' like it did before. Maybe I am learning how to love me more."[Credit to Sam Smith]
Gumdropped (original poster member #40798) posted at 5:38 PM on Thursday, July 29th, 2021
Yes when it works it's a great tool. I did check up on the smiley face with the hearts for eyes and a whole bunch of e mails/alerts came up from Pinterest people liking his posts. So good in the respect that he hasn't been using them. I'm going to check search words such as "meet you" and so on now knowing that we can do that.
Me: 63 Him 67 finally kicked him out Dec 2021
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 5:58 PM on Thursday, July 29th, 2021
thoughts peeps?
I'm sorry . . . but my thought is that I'd rather be single forever than exist in a relationship where I felt like I needed to put myself through this anxiety and level of private investigation. I have been there and I can literally FEEL the anxiety welling up inside me thinking about picking up my then-husband's phone. It's traumatic. If you feel the need to live this way, is the marriage worth it?
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