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LS2520 (original poster new member #70404) posted at 10:18 PM on Friday, July 16th, 2021
Has anyone decided to relocate after spouse talked to/acted out with several people? We are in reconciliation and considering moving about 40 miles away but I am just not sure this is far enough. Rumors have gotten around in the suburb we currently live in and I literally don’t even want to go to the store. How has everyone else handled this?
survrus ( member #67698) posted at 12:58 AM on Saturday, July 17th, 2021
LS2520,
I've seen people get on a plane and fly to England to see an online affair partner they never met. 40 miles might as well be zero.
If your spouse is a serial cheater changing the location will just present them with a new list of people to cheat with. You can change the address, but if your spouse has not changed it was pointless.
Possibly your spouse needs to move on the other side of the front door where they go from there is their business.
What are the specific details and history, not specific names, so we can advise.
survrus ( member #67698) posted at 12:59 AM on Saturday, July 17th, 2021
LS,
None of the shame falls on you, none of what your spouse did is your fault.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 2:39 AM on Saturday, July 17th, 2021
Moving doesn’t change anything, and as Survus said, you can hold your head high.
That said, we D’d and I moved 25 miles away so I don’t have to bump in to my XWS. Are you worried about busybodies or running in to APs? Because forget the busybodies.. they are not worth worrying about.
How does the distance change job commutes, schools, home resale values, etc… weigh out everything, and remember that the next rumor will come along and anyone who listens to the garbage will be on to the next drama.
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
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