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My W claims that being on Prozac during the time of one of her A's was the main cause of her wayward behavior. I told her that it was a b.s. excuse just like all her excuses. Selfishness and a lack of moral boundaries was the cause.

Anyone else gotten that excuse? If so is there any merit to it?

My wife was on citalopram. Its an ssri like prozac. Google citalopram the marriage killer or antidepressants and infidelity. The ssri's do deaden emotions and make them less empathetic.
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Any adult knows cheating is wrong,

No.

My daughter takes one of the meds mentioned... and I took SSRIs for years.
Neither of us have ever cheated, so you're right to call BS.
It's not like those meds take your morals or brains away!!🙄

My wife currently takes Klonopin (clonazepam) as needed. She has been on other SSRIs in the past and I never liked them. She has been violent towards me (twice) and has seemed sort of emotionless over the years.

The ssri's do deaden emotions and make them less empathetic.

Yes, they supposedly do flatten the emotions but one would think that would inhibit someone from falling in love or lust with an AP.

You state that she claims it was the cause of "one" of her As.. How many has there been and what were the excuses on those?

You state that she claims it was the cause of "one" of her As.. How many has there been and what were the excuses on those?

There was only one other one she admitted to. She claimed she was in love but nothing ever happened.

She later changed "love" to "infatuation." I pointed out to her that when adults are in love they usually have sex. Liars lie or at least minimize.

Prozac definitely has sexual side effects in men. I know a few who couldn't orgasm while on Prozac.

I mean, definitely yes to the deadened emotions. When I was on antidepressants I remember feeling like I was riding around in a chair behind my eyes, watching everything happen to someone else. I can understand maybe the desire for thrill seeking behaviour to feel SOMETHING, anything... but that's a sign of extraordinarily poor coping mechanisms and an obvious lack of self work dealing with the reasons for the antidepressants in the first place.

Oh the irony, after my wife's affair, I went on Lexapro for my sanity. It hasn't lead me to an affair.

I can speak a little to the flattening of emotions, I don't get as high or low, especially low. When I get mad, I get mad, like still red hot mad, but it seems to last less and that has really helped me in my professional life in conflict resolutions, I tend to get past things that piss others off almost interminably.

What was her point?

I'm pretty sure the reason for an A doesn't mitigate the pain for the betrayed.

What was her point?

I'm pretty sure the reason for an A doesn't mitigate the pain for the betrayed.

My W has been trickle-truthing and gaslighting me for many years. Getting any information out of her is rare. But every once in a while she pops out from behind her wall and comes up with something like this. I just wanted to know if anyone else had a WS who used SSRI inhibitors as an excuse and if there was any validity to it.

[This message edited by Mr. Kite at 12:52 PM, August 30th (Monday)]

I just couldn't imagine any remorseful person to shift blame away from their own actions. What's the Number 1 rule? Owning your shit?

Yes, they supposedly do flatten the emotions but one would think that would inhibit someone from falling in love or lust with an AP.

Well, what about kicking puppies? Teasing troubled people? ANYTHING THAT IS MORALLY WRONG? I'm assuming that the ability to recognize right from wrong still exists. Why would falling in love or lust with an AP have ANY validity?

I just couldn't imagine any remorseful person to shift blame away from their own actions. What's the Number 1 rule? Owning your shit?

Well there it is. She's never been truly remorseful for her actions. Never sincerely apologized. She's only sorry that she got caught.

This is the same person who did this with a husband and baby at home and kept in touch with the AP after we had moved 3,000 miles away.

She also wins the grand prize for gaslighting. While she was having sex with another man, she came home one night and announced that she would divorce me and take away my son unless I went to a shrink and got on meds due to my "paranoia."

Why stick around after all these years? That's a subject for another thread.