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I haven't been on SI in many years, just thought I'd browse through this morning, and your post triggered.
They always say twice. It's a big red flag when they tell you "only twice", I've seen it so many times here before and in my own experience.
Once doesn't sound believable, more sounds terrible.
It was more than twice.
I'll leave it there.

How are you @Shaker81 ?

What you have is merely the tip of the iceberg.

Do you really think that you caught the only 2 times she has cheated? Chances of that are close to zero.

She's a serial cheater. You will never know everything bc they never come clean.

They also never stop cheating.

A major point in the betrayed spouses recovery IMHO is when we let go of the outcome – by controlling our reactions.
Basically – If your wife wants to cheat she will find a way. That can be real "old-school" physical infidelity, it can be by hating you for keeping her on a short leash, it can be by fantasizing over that hot-bod dad living across the street. If she wants to feel like she’s being controlled or constrained or held back… she will feel that way.

Your strength can be when you can tell her something like:
You know what – YOU ARE FREE TO DATE ANYONE ANYTIME ANYWHERE!
But not as my wife.

You have free choice – you can be my wife or you can go do whatever you want. I cant control that, and I definitely don’t want to share you.
What is it you want? If I don’t hear you tell me you want this marriage I’m simply assuming you want out and will behave accordingly. If you tell me you want this marriage then you need to convince me with your actions, accountability and behaviors that you are earnest.