fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 3:14 AM on Monday, June 1st, 2026
I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Being abandoned by a cheating spouse at any time during an M is heartbreaking and traumatic. Do seek IC with someone trained in betrayal trauma. You have suffered a life changing trauma. As you can see in the responses to this thread that there are positive steps you can do.
I hope you start your own thread so that posters can respond specifically to your situation. I am older than you, and I can tell you that there is a lot of life left to live. My advice is to treat your WH as though he died. Which in essence he did. You need to grieve his passing and then start your new life. No contact with your WH is your best course. Do not pain shop or follow his movements. Make it clear to others you are not interested in hearing about him. Focus on your own healing and growth. You will get through this. Good luck.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
