GotTheMorbs (original poster member #86894) posted at 4:26 PM on Wednesday, November 4th, 2026
I had the worst dream that I was cheating on my H again. In the dream I stopped myself (it was like a weird duplicate version of me talking to the other me) and told myself that this was awful and I have to stop, and didn't I remember what happened last time??? The duplicate me even tried to physically stop the other me, ut the other me didn't listen and continued onward with the sexual activity, and the duplicate me passed right through the other me like a ghost. It felt to that other me like I "had to," to get myself out of the social situation and to "safety," like a general feeling that everything was okay. I think it mirrors the feeling I have IRL a lot, where I'm constantly flying by the seat of my pants just trying to do the next thing I have to do to get by until I have more time later to do things thoroughly or properly...
I woke up terrified and extremely unsettled. My H wasn't in bed (he was at the gym, I discovered later) and I worried that I had been talking in my sleep. I know it took me some months to disclose every past instance of infidelity that I could remember, but this dream wasn't about anyone or any situation that actually happened... I think I need to talk to H about it but I have no idea how to even bring it up.
Far too often in our hasty, mad quest to *Be Loved,* we lose sight of the fact that we are inherently, uniquely, and divinely *Loveable.*
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I'm not arguing... I'm calibrating
hikingout ( member #59504) posted at 5:41 PM on Wednesday, November 4th, 2026
I would just tell him. Honestly, it always helped to bring transparency to each situation because I wasn’t practiced at it and that helped me change my fears around it. And also the discussions seemed for the most part to propel us forward maybe because he wasn’t as used to me sharing my inner world.
Dreams and nightmares can mean nothing, or they can reveal our fears. I would say it’s a safe bet you both fear this.
WS and BS - Reconciled
Mine 2017
His 2020
OhItsYou ( member #84125) posted at 5:51 PM on Wednesday, November 4th, 2026
Totally out of left field, but I get Superman 3 junk yard scene/fight vibes.
Irrespective of being a stressful dream, it looks like an old you vs new you fight.
I would not stress much about talking to your H about this, if it were me i think I would be somewhat happy you told me about it.
GotTheMorbs (original poster member #86894) posted at 6:20 PM on Wednesday, November 4th, 2026
Somehow he always reacts the opposite way of what I am expecting
[This message edited by GotTheMorbs at 6:20 PM, Wednesday, November 4th]
Far too often in our hasty, mad quest to *Be Loved,* we lose sight of the fact that we are inherently, uniquely, and divinely *Loveable.*
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I'm not arguing... I'm calibrating
