"You can survive this. Talk to others that have"

why why posted 1/5/2011 14:48 PM

thank you very helpful

why why posted 1/5/2011 14:49 PM

thank you very helpful

UKgirl posted 1/10/2011 16:58 PM

Bump!

Thelonious posted 1/10/2011 19:30 PM

Likely, they will shift the blame for their choices onto you or the marriage, rewrite the marital history, exaggerate trivial issues, and engage in lies and deceit to lessen their guilt and justify their actions.

Oh man. This is the story of my last three months. She has said this stuff so often that I think she has come to believe it herself.

letmego posted 1/13/2011 11:45 AM

bump

annb posted 1/18/2011 11:23 AM

bump for new member in General

reallyscrewedup7 posted 1/18/2011 13:27 PM

Bump for IMDying

nooneeverthought posted 1/19/2011 11:02 AM

bump

kernel posted 1/20/2011 21:48 PM

bump (which moves it to the top of the forum again)

lordhasaplan? posted 1/21/2011 08:19 AM

Bump for Iris0127 and other newbees.

hurttothebone posted 1/22/2011 11:52 AM

Bump. Still gotta find They affair down.

Fighting2Survive posted 1/24/2011 12:18 PM

bump

hurttothebone posted 1/24/2011 19:43 PM

bump

Fighting2Survive posted 1/25/2011 15:06 PM

bump

isthisforreal posted 1/26/2011 07:36 AM

(From this stage forward you will want to bring a new approach to your communication and interaction with your wayward partner and anyone else that knows. You will still be connected to your partner but you want to have your feelings, thoughts, and actions under control. Speak the truth, directly and with quiet assertiveness and let your silence speak volumes. Be calm, steady, and in control with both your voice and your body. This technique carries power because it comes from your centre and illustrates your dignity and confidence.)

This was the best advice I was given by a dear friend who also experinced an A in her marriage. The thing she regretted most about the confrontation was acting like a crazy woman. Before I confronted WH with my evidence of his betrayal, I very calmly told him "I KNEW" about the cheating. Told him what I knew, and here it all is in black and white. It was almost like I was having an out of body experience, and I think my centered calmness scared the crap out of him. Snapped him out of his insanity fog right quick.

Take2 posted 1/26/2011 19:18 PM

bump for fraeuken and all newbies!

Fighting2Survive posted 1/28/2011 10:17 AM

bump

annb posted 1/29/2011 18:44 PM

bump

Trying2Survive2 posted 1/29/2011 19:00 PM

What a wonderful post. Lots of work was put into this to help the newbies.
Thanks so much for your effort...

Last but not least..
"BUMP"

southsidecali posted 1/29/2011 19:07 PM

need to reread this often!!!