Hi all, for the few things I've posted I've received incredibly helpful feedback. This community has been priceless, thank you!
I'm going to guess my question will be far from popular, but I don't want to feel as if I had a missed opportunity.
I've given a lot of careful consideration to all the intricate daily interactions and work within myself, my marriage and my spouse DDay - April 2017.
Do I still feel pain and hurt, yes. Do I have a remorseful spouse that would give anything to take this event in our life back, yes. Am I a very strong willed and independent person that struggled a lot with forgiving myself for giving him a second chance - yes, but I've done that.
For him it's been death by a thousand cuts. Should he be hurting as a WS, absolutely it's part of healing and his work on himself. However, I feel as if I am at the point where I want to show him my commitment to him in a visual and memorable way. I am grateful for the work he is doing and changes I see. Do I still hurt at times, absolutely but I feel safe with him and as if I have the partner I've wanted back for years now.
In summary. He hates surprises. He's a simple man who loves cars, mma and technology. He's also very emotional. I am planning to rent a private screen at a local movie theater and play for the two of us the movie we saw on our blind date 18 years ago. I want to do this to show him that I am committed to him. Until now, it's been primarily his display of actions.
It will be a surprise but I'll tell him we're going to the movies so it's less of a surprise (beings he hates surprises). I was thinking of having a present brought out to him with a note as an offer of forgiveness and starting over. I would like to include a few more thoughtful items or gestures to make this a very memorable date and potentially a new anniversary moving forward of starting over.
Thoughts, ideas?