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Simplicity posted 3/1/2018 12:34 PM

I'm an east coast gal, and always thought that is what I always would be. However, I've made a few trips to Cali these past few months and I'm not sure that it's not for me! I worry about losing the support of my family, or that I just want to go there to run away. I'm thinking of looking for a one year position out there just to feel it out. I'm still youngish... and the prospects for a new relationship also seems better out there. (Math doesn't lie... more single men on west coast, more single women on east coast... Should there be an exchange program??) Anyone move far for a fresh start?

Candyman66 posted 3/1/2018 16:12 PM

I moved from tx to California but I was raised in California. The best part is out here weather seldom plays a disruptive factor in new beginnings!!

SallyShrink81 posted 3/2/2018 12:19 PM

There are more single men on the west coast?!? How did I not know that!!

I’ve always loved the idea of moving to California even as a kid. I lived in Texas until I was almost 8 then I’ve been in Michigan ever since. I have a very specific but long term plan to get out of Michigan. Not necessarily California but definitely somewhere around the west coast.

When I do leave Michigan I’ll be leaving the only support system I have, the only place I’ve lived as an adult to sone where brand spanking new with two young kids in tow!! Oh the possibilities are so exciting. Daunting yes but also exciting for so many new prospects.

heartbroken_kk posted 3/2/2018 14:04 PM

California is really, really big. The cost of living varies enormously depending on where you land. Living near San Francisco, San Jose, LA or other major metropolitan areas is WAY more expensive than you could ever imagine. Areas that are more than a 3 hour drive to a major city are much more affordable, which is most of the state. If you want urban amenities you will need a very high income to cover your housing costs. Anything under $35/hour is not a living wage in the metro areas.

That said, I was born here and have returned after several experiments living out of state and have no intention of leaving. When I retire I will move further from the urban area and go truly rural/remote.

My long term plan is to buy empty land and build a homestead. My short term plan is to rent land and live in a tiny house.

Simplicity posted 3/2/2018 17:19 PM

I would be moving to a major city. I already live comfortably in a major city in the east coast, so I am comfortable with the idea that it will be expensive on the west coast as well. I guess my greatest fear is how far it is from the rest of my family. I want to make sure this isn't just me running away, which is why I'm looking for one year positions, allowing me to come back easily if I don't like it out there. I feel like I would miss autumn a lot... It is one of my favourite seasons.

heartbroken_kk posted 3/3/2018 18:03 PM

You can visit autumn in the canyons of the foothills of the Sierra Nevada, where the maples and cottonwoods turn lovely golden colors. Higher up slope we have aspen. We don't have the reds of the east coast, but we do have drifts of fallen leaves.

torn2bits posted 3/3/2018 22:25 PM

I think that you should do it if you can swing it. There is always the option of moving back to where you came from.

You never know if you can be truly happy there until you try.

Some of my nieces moved to California and lived there for about 5 years. They started missing family and came back.

They never regret the experience.
Go for it!