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I am challenging every wayward here to post one or even more things that you love about yourself. I don't care what it is as long as it makes you feel positive and good about yourself.

I will even go first.

I have a very wicked and sarcastic sense of humor. I am able to insult someone with humor and make them laugh so hard that they may not even realize that they have been insulted.

Just a FYI - I do have a few more. Lol

I have a great sense of humor. I can entertain entire rooms of people.

and my impressions are stop on.

This is nice thank you for posting it.

I have had a string of bad days so this is appreciated. I was frustrated thinking about this because I wasn’t landing on the something I felt strongly about.

I am normally good at positive thinking and having perspective of the bigger picture. I am also goofy and silly and very even tempered. I should journal this later today because having been asked the question I now realize some of the low is coming from feeling worthless right now.

I love that I no longer care what other people think. Things that used to irk me and ruin my mood just don't even matter. I love being in charge of my life and my moods.

I even formulated an adult dream/goal.

So very hard to have anything positive to say about yourself when you feel so low, and the one person whose opinion matters hates your fucking guts.

I used to really like that I had a positive attitude and would try to see the bright side of a situation. I’m working on that.

Is it sad I can't think of one thing?

This is a great post, thank you Followtheriver for starting it. This of course is the question that haunts WS's. (Or at least, it should be).

* I'm creative/artistic, and usually can do anything I set my mind to doing

* I have a quick wit and a filthy sense of humor

* I'm a good enough problem solver to make a living off of it

* I'm told I have great hands. I'll take that.

* I'm a survivor

* I have amazing patience. Unless you honk at me on the freeway, then fuck you.

* I give amazing bear hugs

* I'm smart and I learn quickly (if only my memory would cooperate)

* I love my voice. I sort of "sing" when I talk

* I love my inner bad-ass. I'm not aggressive at all, but mess with my family...

* I love that I can challenge myself to do/be better in the things I love, or who I need/want to be

* I'm open minded. I may not always agree, but I will listen and honestly consider other ideas and points of view.

* I love my ability to reason

* I love that I can forgive those who hurt me the most in life

* I love sushi. Not really a personal quality, but damn I could use some sushi right now...

* I love being tall and strong

* I have a great beard. (Wish the hair on my head would grow like that).

* I love that I can get back up as many times as I'm knocked down

* Now that my empathy is coming back, I love my empathy

* Finally, I love whatever it is about me that attracted such an amazing spouse and produced such a wonderful family

I used to like a lot about myself. Now, not so much, but I guess I like the openness about myself. I don't lie anymore and I like that about myself.

[This message edited by firstdotlast at 4:27 PM, March 12th (Monday)]

Ok I’ll bite:

I have a very analytical mind an am able to use it to make a living

I am finally becoming a person of integrity again

I can make my wife laugh. Admittedly my reasons are a bit selfish because I absolutely adore her laugh.

I no longer see things simply as black and white; there are definitely shades of gray.

I am a better person than I was yesterday.

Ruinedmylove

Because it is so hard to say something positive about ourselves, is the exact reason we should.

Pinkpggy

What would one of your kids say is the best thing about their Mama?

Tiredsoul2017

What impressions do you do? Which is your favorite and your best?

Smokenfire

Good for you! I will get there someday.

Okay I'll go....

I have a great ability to remember song lyrics. I can't remember a conversation I had five minutes ago but songs stay in my head.

I can get very enthusiastic about my kids interests and achievements, one of my favourite things my wife ever said about me was after I once confessed I was nervous about having a son as I wasn't much of a 'boys boy' when I was young, I didn't know how to be that kind of dad. She told me that she knew how invested i could get, how if he played football I would get to know all the local teams and leagues and get really invested in it with my son.

I quit smoking and I curbed my drinking. I'm proud of myself for that.

This one is a hard one for me. These past few months have been a deeper part of my journey. The things I thought I loved about myself were pretty much a façade. I have been tearing them down ( In a Positive way ) and trying to let some light in to see what's really in there. I'm pretty sure there is something I like about myself. I will let you all know when I find it again!

I am an extremely hard worker. I do not even stop for lunch when I am really going at it.

I also, not so much in my younger days, pay attention to the details.

i don't think i LOVE anything about myself - i'm a bit with 1wish on this one, am in the middle of some introspection that makes me wonder how much of it all is a facade, so not loving much.

i do APPRECIATE my creativity though.....and appreciation is not too bad?

Hmmm...

~I actually love my compulsive honesty. I'm on the verge of wondering if it's a type of disorder, but I wouldn't have it any other way. It's part of me.

~I love how adventurous I am to the point of life-threatening persistence (even though everyone else seems to hate that about me..).

~I love how I have a child-like mind and am instantly entertained by small things, am not embarrassed to jump around in public when I'm excited (or when the train is coming even though I ride it 5 days a week), have a short memory span outside trauma, and yet can discipline my mind to cope for my disability.

~I love my ability to truly appreciate and enjoy little things like hugs, weather, and lives of strangers.

I’m a bad ass. I’ve survived childhood abuse, parents that stalk me, the hell of R, and I’m still standing. Oh and I’m doing this with BPD and bipolar disorder. Yeah I’m fucked up so I celebrate the part where I’m out of bed, showering, cooking, paying bills, taking care of my family, you know....being an adult. I don’t always like myself but I’m still a bad ass for getting up everyday and refusing to give up.

This is hard to do. The last time I felt I had good qualities was during a run a few weeks back, so I will try to remember what I was feeling at that moment. But similar to 1Wish, all the good I thought I had to offer was a facade.

I am generally very patient

I can make my husband smile and laugh

I am a good interior designer

I am a good boss

I know understand that I have qualities that my husband loves and he is the only one that matters

Like I said...a hard exercise but important for healing because you have to love yourself first. I say that to myself every day now. Not that I am always successful, but it is a reminder when I look in the mirror and want to say horrible things...I just remember how important it is to love myself in this journey of healing.

I enjoy building things with my hands taking something that was you g to be thrown away and making something beautiful out of it.

Great thread!

I can fix *anything*. From a hole in the wall, to a leaky pipe, to a blown engine, to bug-filled software or a busted Atari; I even fixed a very specialized kind of industrial rf repeater once, with no idea what it was or how it was supposed to work. If it's broken, I can fix it.

Now, I'm treating myself as just one more thing that needs fixing!

I love the way I take care of patients. That smile or thank you means alot.