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Betrayed Menz Thread-Part 33

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HoldingTogether posted 8/9/2019 10:58 AM

Ok gents, quick survey:

I just recently got back into video games after a long hiatus. Used to play an online MMORPG but that got thoroughly fucked up by FWWís A. Long story. I got a PS4 last Christmas and Iíve been playing a few games. So far Iíve really, really enjoyed Skyrim and Fallout 4. Just finished Fallout 4 and Iím anxious to find a new game.

So the rules are: PS4 games, I donít have an Xbox. I donít want to play anything that requires online play with others (again long story, A related, you can probably do the math) and I really enjoy big worlds to explore. Not a huge fan of games that are just primarily shooting, although I acknowledge that fallout is essentially a shooter I felt it had a nice mix.

I know that a lot of you gentlemen play games... So whatís next? What should I get next?

[This message edited by HoldingTogether at 12:18 PM, August 9th (Friday)]

Tred posted 8/12/2019 01:58 AM

I know that a lot of you gentlemen play games... So whatís next? What should I get next?

I used to play EQ2 but alas, it died the same death mate. Haven't played a console game in a long, long time, but the Bethesda Softworks games were always well done. I was beta tester for them in the early 90's before they released Arena. Just lucky to be a Computer Science undergrad living in Northern Virginia with a nerd roommate.

And Aloha Menz! Sitting in a cottage on the west end of Molokai enjoying a vacation. Fishing, drinking, and pretty much enjoying life. Sand and I have some old friends from when we lived in Australia 17 years ago and we decided, fuck it, let's meet halfway. Molokai is one of those overlooked Hawaii islands - used to be a leper colony. Not much tourism stuff to do, which suits us fine. Beautiful sunsets, caught a 70 pound Ono (Hawaiian name for what I've always known as a Wahoo), and we've been eating fresh fish for the last 4 days. I'm living vicariously through myself. Life is good. Hope all of you are doing well.

DoinBettr posted 8/12/2019 17:11 PM

Resident evil series?

The other one I would put in:
Red dead series. Those are both amazing game series with lots of story.

The Dragon Age games are good too if you liked Skyrim and open worlds. At like lvl 4 I think you can walk to the shore and see a dragon fighting a storm giant. If you wait until they almost kill each other, you can finish them. These are top tier mobs. It is crazy.

Witcher and LOTR: Shadow Over Mordor series. Just watch some of the CGI fights. They are badazz for those games. No real shooting.

tbkjcn posted 8/13/2019 18:21 PM

Sitting in a cottage on the west end of Molokai enjoying a vacation. Fishing, drinking, and pretty much enjoying life.

And I'm sitting in my office, having meetings, conference calls and putting out fires (like they put the wrong microwave radios on the wrong towers)..... For some strange reason I feel as if you're having more fun than me...... nah.....

I'm living vicariously through myself.


Sigh.... have a beer for me....

[This message edited by tbkjcn at 6:21 PM, August 13th (Tuesday)]

Walloped posted 8/16/2019 07:58 AM

HT,

Iíll second the Witcher 3. Huge open world, fantastic quests and storyline.

Also, Horizon Zero Dawn. A PS4 exclusive RPG. Not as huge as Skyrim or Fallout 4, but excellent and great story.

Two of the best PS4 games ever are The Last of Us Remastered and God of War. Both insanely good, but not RPGs. Still, check them out.

I personally loved Red Dead Redemption 2, but some found it a little slow. Note the first game is not available on PS4, but you donít need to play the first to play the second.

Also, the Assassinís Creed series has taken a new direction with the last two installments. Itís a refreshing take with a lot of RPG elements to it. Check out AC: Origins (ancient Egypt) and AC: Odyssey (Greece), which is a further improvement over a very good AC: Origins game.

None of the above games require online/multiplayer. Iím a single player person myself.

Unhinged posted 8/20/2019 21:34 PM

I got a PS4 last Christmas
You gotta huh? Wha'da'fuch? From WOES? Gotta know.

Have no clue what games to get, but if I had a PS4 I'd be playin' some Grand Theft mutha-fuckin' Auto, bro!

(but it's on-line. I get it. No on-line shit).


ETA: There's a post above this one from some dude named "Walloped?" Wha?

Good to 'see' you, sir.

[This message edited by Unhinged at 9:35 PM, August 20th (Tuesday)]

Walloped posted 8/21/2019 06:05 AM

Ha!

Iíve been relegated to lurker status, while some of our betters have apparently risen in the ranks. Glory hound.

Wonderful to see you too.

Mr. Kite posted 8/21/2019 14:40 PM

Hello gents. It's been around 6 years since I last posted here. Too much triggering at the time.

It'll be 25 years in August since her first confession of an LTA. 5 months later came a confession about another man, "We didn't have sex but we fell in love." Right...

All this went on while we had a 2-year old son we were raising. What kind of mother/wife does that?

Never got over any of it despite much counseling. No one was assaulted except me emotionally. Don't have hate in my heart but I'm an old guy now who long ago gave up on fixing her. Not my job.

For the last six years she's worked and lived out of town and comes home on the weekend. I swear this woman must have read and memorized the 180. She throws words around like man-hole covers and mostly sits staring at her Kindle and cell phone, which she turns off when I walk into the room.

Had I known of a site like this, along with all the great information, back when married life began to unravel, I would have headed for D the next day. But alas...

I've learned how to not only be alone but to like it and to thrive. Recently bought an EVH Wolfgang Standard electric guitar (Mango Burst) and am currently recording a song I wrote where a man falls in love with a woman who turns out to be a werewolf and devours him.

All courage and strength to every man who has had to go through this experience. I'll end with this lyric from Jethro Tull's 'Look Into The Sun."

"I had waited for time to change her. The only change that came was over me."

Niceguy25 posted 8/21/2019 14:51 PM

Mr. Kite, Niceguy25 here. We should become buddies as our very stretch out over 25-30 years with Wayward spouses who simply cannot find the truth with a bull dozer. Glad you are here. We have a lot in common and it ainít over yet.

Mr. Kite posted 8/21/2019 16:15 PM

Absolutely, Niceguy25. There's great power in shared suffering. Knowing we're not the only ones creates some sort of consolation, at least for me.

My wife is cold as the driven snow, at least when she's around me. She has a wall around her.

Every 3 or 4 months she tries to act compassionate and loving towards me. This may last for a few hours and even a few days but then it's back to business as usual because she can't sustain it.

One of the things I've noticed about her is that in our 37+ years together, 34 years of marriage, she's never once apologized for anything. Not once, ever. Nothing is ever her fault. It's like dealing with a 66 year-old child.

It was exhausting because I thought it was my job to reason with her, to fix her. That was not only arrogant of me but also stupid and a colossal waste of time and energy. So I gave up trying.

She cannot receive love or tenderness from me so she seeks it elsewhere. God speed, honey.

WornDown posted 8/22/2019 08:34 AM

Mr Kite -

You clearly aren't happy with the arrangements, so why continue with them?

Why continue to be unhappy?

Mr. Kite posted 8/22/2019 09:14 AM

A fair question, WornDown.

I initially stayed because I didn't want my son, our only child, to be raised by a crazy mother with a long line of "uncles" who might possibly abuse him. The whole idea of seeing him every other weekend while giving her half of everything each month didn't appeal to me.

Once he grew up and moved out I had carved out a somewhat comfortable life for myself. I have a nice recording setup in my house where I'm able to indulge my love of music. Besides, I only have to put up with her on the weekends. Last month she was only home for 4 days.

Interestingly enough, that could change in the near future. She's talking about retiring which means she would be home all the time. And earlier this year I was blessed with a boatload of money that came through a house I sold in California.

Stay tuned.

tbkjcn posted 8/22/2019 09:19 AM

Don't have hate in my heart but I'm an old guy now who long ago gave up on fixing her. Not my job.

My wife is cold as the driven snow, at least when she's around me. She has a wall around her.

Nothing is ever her fault. It's like dealing with a 66 year-old child.

You clearly aren't happy with the arrangements, so why continue with them?

I'm going to have to ask the same question. Why continue to stay in a situation that obviously you don't like, and makes you unhappy?

Your wife is employed, that should minimize or eliminate any support. Any kids are adults now, so there's no child support or fear of "tearing the family apart." And, as you said, it isn't your job to fix her. Go live your life.

ETA: Oops, you beat me to it.

Besides, I only have to put up with her on the weekends

Still, thats a quarter of your days you're spending with someone you don't like.
a boatload of money that came through a house I sold in California.

I assume you've taken steps to protect that money.....

[This message edited by tbkjcn at 9:25 AM, August 22nd (Thursday)]

Mr. Kite posted 8/22/2019 10:12 AM

tbkjcn:

I look at it like a roommate situation. We have separate bedrooms. This has been the norm since 1998. Occasionally we have sex but at age 68 I've mostly lost interest.

At my age the thought of moving away and starting over is not something I'd want to do unless I had to.

Unhappy? Not really. More like a perpetual state of annoyance whenever she's around.

Do I wish things hadn't turned out like this? Absolutely. Life would have been much better with a faithful wife who wanted to be a friend and a lover. But those weren't the cards I was dealt. For better or worse, I settled.

[This message edited by Mr. Kite at 6:30 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]

sisoon posted 8/22/2019 18:23 PM

But, Mr. Kite, the demographics are in your favor and getting more in your favor every day.

A good partner will increase your happiness and well-being. Being a partner would allow you to increase someone else's well-being while improving your own. And sex is different from 40 years ago, but it remains highly pleasurable, as far as I'm concerned.

Why waste yourself on this roommate?

Mr. Kite posted 8/22/2019 20:38 PM

sisoon:

This is my third marriage. I'm a year and a half away from 70. The thought of getting another "partner" is the furthest thing from my mind. Can't even picture that.

What I can picture is that if my serenity is compromised once too often after she's retired and moved back home, then D will definitely happen.

Don't care much for Neil Diamond but "Solitary Man" hits the bullseye for me.

WornDown posted 8/23/2019 09:39 AM

Sounds like you've thought this through.

You're right though - your view might change dramatically when she's home all the time. You're the male version of the Japanese Retired Husband Syndrome (google it )


Since it's Friday and you like music/guitar, a good album for you to take a listen too:

John Prine's "For Better, or Worse"

"Dim Lights, Thick Smoke and Loud, Loud Music" pretty much describes me and my ex.

It's classic John Prine. Funny, but really poignant lyrics. And all the songs are duets with great female singers.

Mr. Kite posted 8/23/2019 12:10 PM

WornDown:

Oh yeah, I've had many years to think this through.

I read through some info on the Japanese Retired Husband Syndrome. Fascinating. So I can look forward to asthma, skin rashes, depression, ulcers, high blood pressure and the usual mindfuckery? I don't think so. I might have to chainsaw the house in half though.

John Prine is one of my favorites. From 'Crazy As A Loon'

So I'm up here in the north woods
Just staring at a lake
Wondering just exactly how much
They think a man can take

Rustylife posted 8/23/2019 12:19 PM

Sometimes I think men are more tolerant of roommate marriages. They consider other stuff like money, age, kids more than the wife. Why hasn't she divorced you? My uncle and his wife are in a very similar situation. Can't stand the sight of each other but sticking through as they don't want to go back in the workforce again. Both live very independent lives. Do you guys talk on the phone when not together? Infidelity is a really destructive force.

Edit: I love PC gaming. Buying old stuff on cheap at Steam sales and then finishing the single player campaign. Right now I'm playing F.E.A.R. Super underrated FPS and horror game. The combat is amazing. Highly recommended for PC.

[This message edited by Rustylife at 12:22 PM, August 23rd (Friday)]

Mr. Kite posted 8/23/2019 12:55 PM

Rustylife:

Why hasn't she divorced you?

I've mentioned the D word hundreds of times but she has never mentioned it even once. She rejects the entire idea of getting a divorce. Strange.

Do you guys talk on the phone when not together?

She calls me every night or emails me.

I love PC gaming.

I do as well but many years ago I began to have mini-seizures while playing. It also interrupted my ability to fall asleep. Right on the cusp of sleep I would gasp as if my breathing had stopped. Once I quit playing video games all those symptoms went away.

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