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for a guy anyways..

It happened this past weekend, as my 2 younger kids moved back with WW.

She had alot of their stuff and some of hers in storage and needed help moving it to her new place. As she has broken up with AP.

Long story short, I was carrying a box that was a lil heavy and it ripped open on the side. and some things fell out.. I put the box down and one of the items was an envelope of pictures.. and some fell out of that..

I went to pick up the pictures and bam.. one was a pic of AP and his dick. That's when it all made sense to me.. He had me by at least 2 inches easily.. I know that's what all women want, a hung man.. It made sense that she would never give that up to go back to her marriage...

I put they pics back in the envelope and back in the box and said nothing... But it has been eating me up inside ever since.. I had to let it out, and this is the only place I knew I could.

What bothers me is that, there's no competing with that.. no matter how in shape i can get or more knowledge I could ever learn.. That trumps it all.. And there's nothing I can do to fix it..

Women can get surgeries to fix their bodies.. why hasn't there been anything for men.. God knows I would do something after seeing that pic and I now know I never stood any chance of competition against him.

WW and I keep it friendly, but I know she is dating someone new.. I didn't say anything, and never will.. I would only be humiliating myself and opening new wounds on myself too and likely just boost her ego. It's her trophy and I should not say anything anyways.

Sorry for going on and on.. and ranting. but I needed to let it out.

Oh LBC, I would soooo have tossed those pics. Or done something more creative with them...creative and humiliating.

Ok, not sure if you read this, but I've posted once or twice in this forum about the "worst sex I ever had.". It was with the most physically beautiful man I had ever seen. I mean something that should have been carved in white marble beautiful. He also had the biggest penis I had ever seen in person.

I'll repeat:. It was the WORST SEX I EVER HAD. Dude had no stamina. Not even 30 seconds. Bad bad bad all around. He didn't even make up for it in other ways. At all.

God certainly has a sense of humor.

Please please please do NOT let that photo get to you. It means nothing. I'll bet anything his "bark" was worse than his "bite."

Women can get surgeries to fix their bodies..

Let's change the work "fix" to "alter.". There is nothing WRONG with your body. Just as there is nothing wrong with small breasts (little A's over here!!), Or post-vaginal birth vaginas. The "best" sex I ever had, was with a man who was markedly below average in size. Size is truly of little importance. My girlfriends all concur.

I know you can't unsee what you saw, but think of my "perfect marble sculpture man" when you do. And try to laugh.

Hell, they broke up! His magical penis could not have been that magical, or she wouldn't have let him go.

Platonic hugs, LBC. Hang in there (no pun...well maybe some pun...)

[This message edited by WhoTheBleep at 10:23 AM, January 23rd (Wednesday)]

I know that's what all women want, a hung man.

Uh, no. That's not true at all.

I'm sorry you had this experience. I'm even more sorry that you feel that penis size is so important. I'd much rather have a partner with an average size and a desire to please. I've been with a well endowed partner and, let me tell you, that gets old - and painful!

Women literally do not care about that as much as men think they do.

Uhm... NO!! A real woman would build a connection with a man that wasn't just cheap and physical. As opposed to your shallow vapid calloused WW who is a cum dumpster not a woman.

I was with a guy who had a few extra inches than average and when he got going he thrust into me so hard I thought he punctured my uterus. It was pre-kids so clearly my uterine walls were fine but OUCH!!

Also slight side note here. When I learned about micropenises I was fascinated and there were a lot of women who commented that most guys who had smaller packages made up for it in many other ways *cough*cunnilingus*cough*

Sorry you had to see that picture of AP though... (((hugs)))

Nope. Just, nope. I'll echo everyone else's sentiments. As a woman, I really do not put emphasis on this. I'd rather have a loving, caring, trustworthy partner who I can build a connection with.

I'm sure that stumbling on that photo was shocking and unsettling. You have a right to feel a jumble of emotions after that. But, please don't let this get you down. Your WW did what she did because she is selfish and broken. Not because of you, your actions or your physical attributes.

Thanks everyone... It has been eating at me.

I'm trying to just flush the memory out and not think about it anymore.

Several months ago, WW and I messed around.. I was caught by surprise with the sudden interest... and I got the job done.. Didn't take long either. (sorry for the TMI)...

I do not know if they had already broken up at that point.. I heard about it through the kids that over the holidays he was MIA.

I had an incredible amount of difficulty with this issue myself, and know that it is a very common and serious issue with others as well.

From what I've learned, it depends very much on the woman in question. Each person has their own unique mind, heart, and BODY, and that's not only true of male bodies and hearts and minds, but FEMALE ones as well.

And ALL of those "features" and interests are subject to change over the course of time as well as maturity.

Younger ladies tend to have a smaller, more constricted and possibly more sensitive or tender vagina as well as their overall reproductive system. As their bodies change with age and childbearing and other factors, those things can often change to a large degree as well.

Also, I think a woman's body tends to respond very much to the sexual arousal and stimulation as well as the emotional connection and mental gymnastics or rest that she is having at the time of sexual activity.

In other words, in my own wife's case, her degree of perceived "fullness" has a LOT to do with how excited I get her physically and mentally and how enjoyable the overall experience is for her at the time, because her girly parts "embrace the moment" or "shrink to fit" whatever's giving her that loving feeling whether it's my fingers or other appendages or toys.

Her first AP was in fact bigger than me and also got her to fairly quickly orgasm the very first time as I understand it. But he also hurt her and she had to really control and run the show to keep him from going on too far/deep because otherwise it just hurt way too much. This did not make him happy to have to hold back compared to the sex he was regularly having with his other side piece chick who wasn't as small as my wife was/is on the inside.

Consequently, not only was she never able to really just relax and enjoy it like she can with me if she wants to, but also she gets way BETTER sex in general and much more variety and fun and options at her discretion and mine than she ever could have with him, since she doesn't always like to be the one doing most of the "driving" or to also have to keep one foot on the brakes the whole time to keep certain "things" from going too damn far and ruining the experience for us both.

But it totally sucks to have another man's shit to deal with in my own head and bed and wife, I know.

Here's a PG-13-ish clip from a mainstream movie called Full Metal Jacket (the full movie itself is rated R, however)) thatonds what we are saying on here, btw.

The video quality is poor, but I didn't want the better quality one that had additional discriminatory slurs in it (besides the prostitute's "discrimination" based on SIZE, that is).

Too Beaucoup (Too Big/too much) aka Size Matters

https://youtu.be/-AkB5qi1r4Q

[This message edited by Cephastion at 2:52 PM, January 23rd (Wednesday)]

I would GLADLY give up 2 inches to have a faithful partner. If I could give up 2 inches of my WH's penis to keep it out of OWs I would do it without hesitation.

Why did you help her move the stuff? Even if some of it was the kids stuff, it's still her responsibility to get it moved. No more Mr. Nice Guy.

LizM, I think you could be on to something there...

I would GLADLY give up 2 inches to have a faithful partner. If I could give up 2 inches of my WH's penis to keep it out of OWs I would do it without hesitation.

Are you super fussy about which end the two inches are clipped off from?

And is he willing to give up those 2 inches as well?

If SO, then let me introduce you to my leettle friend...

But if you need any help with holding him down for the process, just consider changing your username to "LoseEm" or just "LoseM" or better yet, maybe go with "#LoseEm" for a catchy hashtag thing and see what kind of support you can get here on SI!

[This message edited by Cephastion at 3:15 PM, January 23rd (Wednesday)]

I only helped cause there was the kids dresser and the kids stuff mainly.. but I guess a couple of hers underneath that was mixed in.

If it was only her stuff.. I would of not helped her.

I'll second/third/fourth what all the ladies are saying as well. We really don't care at all about that. Yes of course if it's abnormally tiny and we can't feel it, sure that may be tough to work with. But I would take an average size penis on a man of character, values and realness over a porn-sized douchebag ANY DAY OF THE WEEK.

But I would take an average size penis on a man of character, values and realness over a porn-sized douchebag ANY DAY OF THE WEEK.

Another thing is that ladies don't generally sit around one upping other ladies about the size of penis they are getting except on sick chick flicks and Jerry Springer, I don't think.

But even if they do... maybe that's just cause that's the only imaginable or possible selling point to the "poor" soulless dumb beast (be that the WW or the OM or BOTH)...

No matter how big the hose or magic wand is, I don't think there's really that much there to envy besides that... Is there?

[This message edited by Cephastion at 4:27 PM, January 23rd (Wednesday)]

So, isn’t it extremely rare to have a hardcopy of a dick pic? I thought they were pretty much exclusively digital. Can’t imagine any woman would ever go to the trouble to print one out, right? Must’ve been the AP who gave It to her. Seems like it takes creepy to a whole new level if he’s passing out actual hardcopies. I don’t care how big it is, it’s just weird.

Utter bullshit about size. I am 70. I have never once heard a friend brag or be impressed with dick size. And that includes dozens and dozens of my friends over the years.

Au contraire- most women do NOT want a big dick. It can hurt.

When Playgirl came out in the 70s we laughed at the guys with ridiculously long dicks.

only helped cause there was the kids dresser and the kids stuff mainly.. but I guess a couple of hers underneath that was mixed in.

If it was only her stuff.. I would of not helped her.

Wait... WHAT?

Am I reading this right? What kind of "mother" mixes homewrecking, traitor-trash, Porky's Pig, dick-pic porno in with their young childrens' personal belongings??!

That's even SERIOUSLY low for a run of the mill traitoring adulteress!

[This message edited by Cephastion at 6:31 PM, January 23rd (Wednesday)]

BS here. I am so sorry for what our Waywards do to make us feel inadequate and bad.

I for one would gladly be with a man who would keep his penis in his pants when not with me or using a urinal than be with an endowed cheater....

um just saying. Character trumps anything for me.

Am I reading this right? What kind of "mother" mixes homewrecking, traitor-trash, Porky's Pig, dick-pic porno in with their young childrens' personal belongings??!

Nah, there was a couple boxes that were hers.. that was mixed the kids boxes she had in Storage.

Must’ve been the AP who gave It to her. Seems like it takes creepy to a whole new level if he’s passing out actual hardcopies.

Yea, but she must felt it was worth saving.. I look at it as her trophy she kept of him, I guess.

As humans, we do weird crap sometimes.. Lol!

Just one more wimmenz saying size isn't what matters... and if that's why she did what she did, you're far better off without her.