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I don't mean to make anyone more depressed than we already are, but what are your song triggers?

Ever since Dday2 I found I couldn't cry that much anymore. I used to cry all the time after Dday1. Even when I share it to friends, I couldn't cry. I tried to listen to sad songs to help me release my emotions but all I got was few tears or none at all. Maybe that's a sign that I'm stronger, I feel like I am. But I also just want to release the pain cause it really really hurts. I don't know if I'm broken beyond I can imagine hence tears stopped suddenly. I'm going into IC and it's helping.

Today, I listened to Someone You Loved by Lewis Capaldi. This song got me a few tears before (listened to it the first time close to Dday2), but now (2 months in from separation) I flat out burst into tears and the release of emotions is just overhelming, in a good way. The lyrics of this song fit my life so well like it was written for me. How about you guys?

The Dance~Garth Brooks. It was one of my most favorite songs ever. I cant listen to it without sobbing.

Happy~Mudvayne. Very metal.

In this hole

That is me

Left with a heart exhausted

What's my release what sets me free

Do you pull me up just to push me down again

Lookin for a good cry?

It'll be alright~dean Lewis (about infidelity)

Death by a thousand cuts ~ t swift

Yes, I'm a millennial.....

[This message edited by RedHeadTemper at 8:24 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)]

That song makes me cry every time. Also look up crossing the line by Mike Shinoda. My WH was playing this song constantly during his affair. It all made sense after Dday. The absolute worst part of that song is I don't know if he was thinking about her or me.

[This message edited by layla1234 at 8:28 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)]

Triggered regularly by music. Music they listened to, music she shared with him, and music by topics such as infidelity or casual sex.

There is a song they play a lot here called 'Good Lord' by Birds of Tokyo about infidelity. I should hate it because it rips my heart out all over again but it strangely makes me feel better. Like I am not alone. This stuff is hard. And it's a big deal. My WH always turns the station over when it comes on, but I feel really vindicated having him hear it (the lead singers marriage broke up after his wife cheated).

I love music. Researching and listening to all sorts of genres is a lifelong pleasure. One of the more frustrating things about my wife’s betrayals is the number of great albums I can’t listen to any more. Every fricking time she reveals some crappy betrayal she ruins whatever I happened to be listening to at the time. This last time I was careful not to listen to any music for about a month afterwards because I didn’t want to ruin another album.

Sam Smith, I'm Not the Only One

I would listen to this one over and over, sing at the tip of my lungs when we were in the car together.

Taylor Swift, bandaids don't fix bullet holes. I'm terrible with names of songs, but I know lyrics.

Ellie Goulding, Love Me Like You Do

The MOW shared this one with my fch on Google. I found it in his history. I just recently was able to listen to it all the way through. It wasn't enjoyable.

These were the songs that triggered me. They don't really trigger me now. I think the Ellie Goulding one is the only one that still bothers me. I think that's because it was shared between them and a sort of profession of her feelings for him.

[This message edited by cocoplus5nuts at 9:00 PM, November 30th (Saturday)]

I still love my music as much as I did when I was a teenager , although my tastes are ever changing

My trigger songs :

Silver Spring , Fleetwood Mac

In the Blood , John Mayer

White Lie , Lumineers

Shame , True Sadness , No Hard Feelings , Avett Brothers

During my obsessive sleuthing days, I managed to hack into SAWH's AP company email ( it was owned by him, not her )

And I discovered her crazy sad song list when he was ignoring her

It included :

Not the Only one , as mentioned by cocoplus5nuts and also for some odd reason , music that she knew I liked

It seems like every sad song about heartbreak was written for me during the early days of DDay

Song Triggers. Funny - one had me pulled over on the side of the road the other day sobbing my eyes out. I'll start with that one and go from there.

His Favorite Christmas Story - Capital Lights

Reason to Believe - Rod Stweart

Time for me to Fly - REO Speedwagon

Walk Away - Dropkick Murphys

To Love Somebody - Bee Gees

I happen to know that AP was a Florence and the Machine fan. If her voice comes on the radio, I’m always close to throwing a brick at it. It’s an almost instant visceral reaction. Instant rage. I’m so triggered by it.

Argh I feel angry just typing it out!