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Photo of ex and husband
Phcj123 posted 11/7/2019 03:21 AM
Ugh can’t sleep. My cousin has a mutual friend with the girl my husband cheated with and left me for 2 months ago. A photo was posted last night of the girl and the mutual friend and I see my husband in the background. I knew they were dating now but to see it out in the open makes it so much more real. He still keeps denying he cheated and when he left me said “ you think I’m just going g to run in to a relationship blah blah”. Of course you are because that’s your pattern ! Run from relationship to relationship until the fun runs out and on to the next. I sent him an email that “as we discussed do not want her around my 1 year old son and if I find out I will file for a custody agreement”. Should I do anything else or let it be ? Have a million thoughts running through my head. Was thinking of reaching out to his first ex to see if he cheated on her too. What should I do ? What a creep!!
jadedangel posted 11/7/2019 03:50 AM
I sent him an email that “as we discussed do not want her around my 1 year old son and if I find out I will file for a custody agreement”. Should I do anything else or let it be ?
Do not send him anymore emails regarding her around your child. He will do it to spite you and you cannot control who he has around the child.
The best thing to do is to is file for custody. I know in my state, if there is no custody paperwork, then each parent has equal rights to the child and if in the care of one parent, that parent does not have to let the other parent have visitation. If he has your child off your property, he does not have to bring him back home to you.
The police will not do anything as there is no paperwork. My ex tried to pull this stunt with me. What he didn't know was that my Aunt had dealt with that very situation and my mother (I was at work) would not let him leave the property with my son.
The custody paperwork will protect you as far as visitation schedules and a routine with the child. Do not leave it vague. You can add the morality clause about not having female guests staying overnight while your child is visiting but that can be harder to prove.
Evermore posted 11/7/2019 05:19 AM
Get your custody and support in order. She has probably already seen your child if he has had your child alone because he is untrustworthy. Let that go and focus on the legal element.
20yrsagoBS posted 11/7/2019 05:23 AM
Never show them your cards.