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J707 (original poster member #63778) posted at 3:56 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2019
I ran into an old friend who sees my exww sporadically, usually grocery shopping. Our conversation was just casual at first and then she starting telling me some bullshit things my ex was telling her a year ago and even more recently. Same lame excuses as before:
He was just so mean to me all the time, nobody knew because they weren't there
He never loved me
I'm soo happy now
We were never happy
He won't let go and is still obsessed with me (biggest eye roll in history from me)
Blah blah blah.
Victim, poor me, look aren't I fabulous now kind of shit.
Funny thing is, we both have NC other than kids related, which is rare and to the point. I don't contact her unless it's kids related because I have no need to and I refuse to feed a narcissist (that took some training on my end). She doesn't contact me because she has a source, her BF feeds her supply. Cool with me, feel sorry for him. I rarely talk about her A anymore to people (except all of you). We make small jokes at work about little stupid things that happened or that she said after Dday, some good one liners. My thing is, it seems like I'm more moved on from this shit storm and D than she is. Shes still stating her case to people as if she needs to prove the A didn't happen. I know she'll be in victim mode forever but dude, fucking leave it alone. I'm not surprised at all. I've found strength in not texting her with so many sarcastic things, shit she doesn't know that I know about. Anyways this may be a rant, my life is pretty mellow and drama free right now. I'll take it. This thing made me crack up. Apparently she is still out there trying to prove that she married the Devil. Sorry poor muffin, I divorced the devil and I ain't looking back now, good luck on your bullshit pity party.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 5:37 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2019
Keep moving forward. Love how she’s in your rear view mirror :-)
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:03 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2019
A liar to the end. Glad she is the Ex-wife.
No remorse, no respect. Typical cheater behavior.
Rock on!
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Butforthegrace ( member #63264) posted at 11:17 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2019
The best revenge is living well.
"The wicked man flees when no one chases."
J707 (original poster member #63778) posted at 7:56 PM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2019
Glad to call her my ex wife now. She hid herself well during our M but really it was all there, just beneath the skin.
Marz ( member #60895) posted at 7:59 PM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2019
Under the circumstances this really shouldn't surprise you.
It is who she is, was and always will be.
And not your problem anymore.
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 3:23 PM on Thursday, November 21st, 2019
I am truly sorry for what you endured.
I hope you will live your best life ever.
I have a sense of peace and joy in my life now that is indescribable. I wish that for every survivor.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
J707 (original poster member #63778) posted at 9:09 PM on Thursday, November 21st, 2019
Texted the ex yesterday about Thanksgiving (this year is my year with the kids) and she said we can meet halfway at 130pm because she has company and is doing Thanksgiving on Wednesday. Thought to myself, so fucking what, it's my day. Oh the entitlement in this one. I shot her down and told her I'll be over there at 8am to get the kids. She said I can get them at midnight if I want because that's when Thanksgiving starts or 130pm. I was brief and to the point, I'll be there at 8am to get my kids. What a joke.
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