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While I hate acronyms like that, I need to use that one this morning.

This is just an unloading of information so I can maybe dry my eyes and get to work.

Had a decent meeting last week in an attempt to resolve issues to get this divorce done. STBXWH was well-behaved. By Saturday he was an ass.

Yesterday, his COW whore girlfriend had the audacity to take his phone and text my kids that their dad was going in to surgery for broken arm. He has never told them about her (I did but he didn't). The middle kid was texted. He was upset so just gave the info to oldest kid. That kid did the texting back and forth with COW whore.

Anyway, dumbass dropped his health insurance recently. Now he is going to be out of work for many weeks.

He was to put money in joint account Friday (for bills). This has been how we have been handling things. he puts money in weekly. Well, he didn't get to it Friday. Saturday he told me he'd do it by Monday.

Saturday he bought almost 250 work of stuff out of our bill account that he was supposed to use credit card for. Then middle kid told me he went on a spending spree for his apartment and charged up hundreds on that credit card and his own debit card.

Now I don't know what to do. I contacted attorney last night, hope to have response today.

Why do we keep getting punished? I feel like I'm in hell. Everything he does continues to affect me and the kids. I was so upset when I got this information from my kid yesterday. I was driving home in bad weather and needed to get other kid to sports. I was too upset to take her. It all just snowballs.

I'm sorry, I just needed to put that somewhere.

Going to try to get through my day without any more tears.

((hugs))

SP

Princess,

(((HUGS!))) I'm so sorry he's being such a jerk.

Aw ((((Stormy))))

WHAT A FUCKING ASSHOLE!!!!!!!!!!

I just want to come over there and punch my fist down his throat, hold my earrings!!!!!

I hope you can pull through and that your L reads him the riot act. You and your children don't deserve such a selfish ass in your lives.

((((Stormy))))

Stormy, he's a flaming selfish ass. You don't deserve this. Your kids don't deserve this.

I hope your Lawyer goes for his jugular and uses the bones from his broken arm to slash it with.

Zen - I got your earrings and your back.

let your attorney and the courts handle it

Do you have a separation agreement yet, or some sort of court order? If not, get your attorney on it. It won't matter what he does with his money, he will be responsible for paying you X dollars every month even if he buys a new helicopter or vacations weekly.

Stormy, I remember you! And wow. Your STBXWH deserves an asshat reward. He must be in the running for douchebag of the year and upping his ante. I hope your lawyer rips him a new one in court.

It never fails to surprise me when they justify taking care of their own selfish needs before their own children's well being.

I 1000% understand what you're going through. I had a joint account still when my journey began. He would deposit money into it for the bills I was paying while he started his new life with his then 14 day relationship bride.

When he used OUR joint account to transfer money from his business account into our JOINT account, and then used the Joint account to transfer into his personal account so he could take his wife out, I lost my cookies. He had the balls to use ME to transfer money online because the accounts were linked. He of course didn't put any in the account for his FIRST family or his kids.

I shut the account the next day, and closed the loop of access for him.

Get your attorney to establish paperwork setting the ground rules for temporary child support, bills and possession of the home. After that point he wont' be able to play games.

For the LOVE of All that is logical, close that account ASAP! As long as your name is on it you will be liable for his douchebaggery, and anything he does to your credit.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. This is a long road, filled with emotional pot holes, and pain. Stand tall, take a deep breathe, and remember tomorrow is a new day. You won't feel punished forever. In time you will feel the relief of not having such an emotional child in your life, and you will be stronger for it.

Sending much needed HUGS to you.

I'm holding ZenMum's earrings while I kick off my own shoes...

Seriously SP - that guy is such a boil on the butt of humanity.

And you know - this whole business of the whatever-she-is inserting her texting and interloping crap just irritates me so much. I guess there really are no limits when it comes to boundaries. Sigh.

Sorry you're having to deal with this crap - especially at this time of year. Sending hugs back atcha tonight.

You all are so amazing. Thanks to those who pm'd me as well.

I wrote the slut a mean letter. I didn't send it. Isn't there somewhere on here we can post those things so we don't break down and really send them on? I so want to push the 'send' button.

Have a great day everyone! We are so much better and classier than those who have hurt us. I'm thankful for all of you.

((hugs))

SP

You all are so amazing. Thanks to those who pm'd me as well.

I wrote the slut a mean letter. I didn't send it. Isn't there somewhere on here we can post those things so we don't break down and really send them on? I so want to push the 'send' button.

Have a great day everyone! We are so much better and classier than those who have hurt us. I'm thankful for all of you.

((hugs))

SP

Do not send the email!!!! The OW wants a fight, so I never gave her the satisfaction of an argument nor email fight. I did fight them thru court and thru my attorneys and I calmly had the police escort me to get my kids from visitation-which embarrassed her to her neighbors!!! And she/XH got smacked down in court which was epic! I STILL never talk to them directly, only thru my atty.

BTW, I was told by the SNAP office that until there is a legal court order regarding child support, that I was entitled to the most food stamp money allowed based on my income alone, to feed my children. That’s what they are for— to make sure kids have food!

I found this out after I burned thru all my bill money feeding my kids. I then found out Salvation Army would pay 1 electric bill. Not sure if this info will help you, but I thought I’d pass it on to you.

This place of limbo is so hard, but your life will be so better once everything is finalized. Make sure you put in the papers that if you have to take him to court to enforce the orders, he will be responsible for the atty fees!