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Ow is still horrible

Brokenheart29 posted 6/21/2020 12:26 PM

Ow and xwh bought a house together. My ds hasnít been since lockdown. This was his first weekend there. Ow has taken my sons iPad and took loads of photos of them and their house knowing full well I will see. Twisting the knife in again.
What do I do? Do I delete them and look bothered. Or do I leave them on there. Iím now torn. I donít want to send the iPad anymore as itís just not what I need to see. But then my son will be missing out. I feel like she will get so much satisfaction whatever I do. What a bitch. No wonder my dd is refusing to go. She hates her.

Thanksgiving2016 posted 6/21/2020 13:48 PM

Make your ex get him an iPad for his house.

Brokenheart29 posted 6/21/2020 13:59 PM

I was thinking this but this one my son has got in xwhís old one. So Iím thinking I donít really have a leg to stand on if I tell him to get his own as he gave my son this one. I donít want to buy my son a new one as heís only 4 and itís very excessive.

Trust55 posted 6/21/2020 14:10 PM

I would put the photos in a folder on his iPad and put a passcode only you can open. You could put a cheerful title on the photo album. Taking advantage of a 4 year old is outrageous. She is a loser. I am sorry you have to deal with this. Sending you hugs!

ChamomileTea posted 6/21/2020 15:21 PM

I would delete the photos and not send the ipad anymore. You can pack other things to keep your child entertained, like handheld video games and learning toys.

Brokenheart29 posted 6/21/2020 16:24 PM

Trust55 I didnít even know you could do that. Thatís a good idea. I would just hate to entertain her or make her think she has won in any way. Which is ridiculous I know but that cretin has done enough damage I donít want her to think sheís still inflicting pain.
Thank you all for your replies. Honestly she needs to get a life. Itís screams insecurity. And also like itís been mentioned taking advantage of a 4 year old.

JadedByItAll posted 6/21/2020 16:52 PM

What I would do is delete the photos and replace them with pictures of memes dealing with homewreckers, sluts, whores, and the like. That should send a clear message. But, then again, I am a petty, vindictive jerk, so take my advice with a grain of salt.

Cooley2here posted 6/21/2020 17:35 PM

Delete and then take pictures of you and your kids. If you like them send them to your own device because she will delete them. You might have to do this after every visit but the upside to that is how many pictures you will have of your kids. Itís a Win/win for you.
Also, you can edit her and your ex out of any good ones of him and then delete.
Please keep in mind that she has your icky ex. They deserve each other.

[This message edited by Cooley2here at 5:36 PM, June 21st (Sunday)]

messyleslie posted 6/21/2020 19:19 PM

I think I would just leave them. I wouldnít even give her the satisfaction of knowing I saw them. I think the best response to passive aggressive nonsense is to just act like you assume the person has the best intentions - this willl annoy them because they will feel like you cannot be rattled.

crazyblindsided posted 6/22/2020 14:45 PM

I would delete the photos and not send the ipad anymore.

This is what I would do ^

Brokenheart29 posted 6/22/2020 16:35 PM

Thanks for all the suggestions guys. Really means a lot.
Today Iíve gave myself a shake and just realised how pathetic she is. Sheís moved in with her ďsoul mateĒ she got what she wanted. She helped wreck a family. Why is she trying to still bait the ex wife 4 years later. Honestly her life must be so dull. I can laugh today about it.
But I am going to stop sending the iPad. Even though itís xwhía old one I actually bought him it as a present so technically itís mine anyway. They can get their own for him if they wish. Then she can take photos all she wants.

Notmine posted 6/23/2020 06:30 AM

Do not send it any more. Take the toy away from her. They can get him one that stays at their house if they want to.

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