Has anyone's XWH, especially of the NPD variety, hidden or attempted to hide income so that the BW and/or children of child support age couldn't get it?
Yes, my narcissistic ex self proclaimed that he would decide what I was entitled to. I hired an attorney. We had a hugely contested, vile divorce. I came out on the winning end of everything.
He started a competing business in the name of the wife he married but I caught it. He was extremely predictable.
We weren't married for 23 years, but he married her in 14 short days after I found out. He put all their personal expenses through the business that was considered a marital asset for us. He paid his wife a hefty salary, even when she didn't work and was on vacation.
I had to force him to provide bank statements, and give me access to view until the divorce was finalized. He put her as a signer on the account.
He took huge draws of money, over $200k in a year, not counting the personal things they were charging to the business, such as rent, utilities, gas and food. I lived with our 3 kids on less than $3k a month.
I threatened him with a forensic accountant and trial. In the end I was compensated for some of it, but not all. He got away with plenty, but I was tired, and emotionally depleted by the end.
Now he appears to be hiding money and assets from the IRS, and putting things in her name to avoid lawsuits and liens for unpaid taxes. She uses her maiden name to likely avoid the connection.
He pays my settlement on the last day of the month, and often two weeks beyond that. He knows I can't pursue him in court unless he's a full 30 days late, which means I'm without money for almost 60 days. I've had to threaten him with legal action for almost everything. He didn't pay off the debts, it's now getting paid, but will end up taking an extra year to accomplish.
He knows it's expensive to drag him back to court. I have to pay my own fees, and you don't get them back in most cases. It's not financially viable to cost me $1000 in legal fees to get back $500 in money. I have another 2.5 years he owes me payments. It will be a nightmare until that time comes.
He is hostile, blames me for the financial destruction of his life and will hold a grudge until the end of time.
Be prepared for a battle, but remember to win the war, and make sure it makes financial sense to pursue it. Don't spend thousands to get dollars. Make it count.