Hurtingnconfused posted 6/26/2020 15:24 PM

Ok now I have heard it all. STBXWH states that the reason he has been at the hotel for three weeks in a row, holding her hand in the lobby, is that he is crying over me. Yah, he misses me sooo much that he is crying on her shoulders. Get real

His exact words, "Anna.... Do you know how many nights I bawled like a b**** to her over you?"

I suppose I was not nice and responded "Probably years less than I bawled over you and 1st OW."

He is stating now that he never wanted the divorce and that I had said "we have probably done too much damage to each other to recover from this." Hum. NO, I believe the conversation about the divorce came when he found out for sure she was headed this direction. He is delusional!

Then he said that I only assumed that he slept on his brothers couch.... that I made it up. Told him, "NOPE I recorded that crap!! You told me you slept on your brothers couch." His response, "wow." Yah, not only that fuzzy butt nugget on the back of my dog, "I played it for OW's BS2 and BS3" I got "just wow." yah try to make crap up, I keep recordings. How stupid do you think I am? you did this before and unlike you, I learn!

THEN, OH THEN he tells me I'm out to get him. Huh. Well I didnt call YOUR job like you did mine and I also did not tell her and her spouse the super secretive stuff you told me that has nothing to do with me. I told her about your interactions with me and only me. AND you stupid idiot (saying that in my head only) both the manager and the head housekeeper are friends of mine on FB. Did I use my connections and friendship to prove without a doubt you have been in the hotel the last three weeks? NO. I sent one video the first night to the two husbands and one two weeks later when asked by the BH2!! Now he is stating "I dont know who or what to believe from anyone now!!! I feel like everybody is playing a game against me and I don't even know it!!" play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Reminded him she broke up a marriage when she was in high school, cheated on BS1, BS2, and now BS3, if he didnt know who was playing games now.... She is saying that I sent her "truly horrific texts about how bad STBXHW was" and they were so bad she could not show STBXWH. My answer to that is, tell her to show you. Because you all know that if she had that kind of ammunition, she would have used it. DO IT double dog dare you. how stupid

Ugh! I think it is more a case of she figured out that you had no money, no prospects, and that she would have to give up her cushy life AND her 130 thousand dollar surrogate baby for living in someones spare basement bedroom. You gave up our house, our lifestyle, our trips we had saved for, the kids respect, US all for three weeks in a hotel so you could cry on her shoulder.

How did it take me 5 years of false R to figure this out???

crazyblindsided posted 6/26/2020 15:34 PM

How did it take me 5 years of false R to figure this out???

That's how long it took me to figure out after my False R I think it is because some of us have a higher threshhold for abuse. Fear controlled me for a long time.

It's interesting your STBX says "wow" too when they are stumped. Mine will say it in a way where he is looking down at me like I am a crazy bitch. I can't stand hearing it.

Sorry you are having to deal with all of this. It sometimes feels like there is no end to the mindfuckery.

StillLivin posted 6/26/2020 16:35 PM

You're divorcing. The best thing you can do for yourself is go complete NC. Let your attorney do any talking. If you still have any kids under 18, then kids and finances only. He is a lot of drama and having these kinds of conversations only sucks you into his drama and halts your healing.
Just reading about your conversations is making me exhausted. I cannot even imagine how much energy it must suck out of you to have then with him. Do this kindnesses for yourself and you won't regret it.

nekonamida posted 6/26/2020 20:21 PM

play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

YEP. Exactly what I was thinking. The karma bus is coming for him.

It's interesting your STBX says "wow" too when they are stumped.

I'm always amazed when they say this as if they are shocked and appalled by the truth and how the BS actually took smart measures to protect themselves. Truthfully he's only surprised that HC stood up for herself and is not a whimpering mess without him. Turns out he's not as special as he thinks he is.