...Went on the 5 hour trek to kids house to celebrate grandbaby's 1st birthday this weekend. One of my kids was already visiting there for a few weeks and the other one drove over and stayed for a night.
XWH drove over as well. No one was sure where he was staying and he is always welcome to stay at their home. I got a hotel room for a few nights to have some 'me' time. WXH called around 2 hours before party to ask what size grandkid wears. He was out shopping and would be at lunch in time. He was 30 minutes late. He stayed through the party. It was a small gathering with just 3 adult friends invited (Covid, you know). The 3 left and then the rest of us were going to think about ordering in some dinner to arrive around 6. WXH said he had to get going. Everyone (but me) hugged him goodbye and no one asked where he was going.
Fast forward to this morning. I look out of my hotel room window and think I see his truck across the street. It is very distinctive. But, being older, with glasses, I wasn't sure. Came time to check out of hotel, I load up car and pull out of parking lot. Sure enough, it is his truck. UGH!
Anyway, me and the kids/grands were ordering in breakfast and I told them dad was still in town. They asked him to join in the meal. He texts ME and says his GF is with him and he is not coming over.
I'm sorry, but his two grandkids live 5 hours away and he rarely sees them or his kid and son-in-law. I am floored (maybe I'm not really) that he dumped his gf in a hotel room and came to the party then couldn't spend much time because he had to get back to her. He texts me that if it wasn't for her, he wouldn't have even come to the birthday party.
What a dang loser. He is such a coward for not being up front with his kids.
I'm seriously trying to detach from this guy and got myself two books to read and will keep coming back on here but it is rough. When you spend almost half of your life with someone it is excruciatingly difficult to simply detach just like that. I feel like stayed at that hotel on purpose. He knew exactly where I was staying because we discussed meeting in the business office to work on our sellers' disclosure for the house.
So, question for your my SI friends, can I do my own disclosure and he do his own? I've never sold a house before and I cannot stomach talking to him about this any longer. He wants to do it over the phone now which means I would have to read the whole damn document to him (he doesn't like to read).
I am starting to get really sickened by just the thought of him. Especially since this gf is the one he cheated on me with while we dated back in the early 90s. I think it wouldn't be so bad if he just had someone knew that wasn't involved in our relationship ever. Thanks for letting me ramble. Hope you all had a safe 4th. I'm ready to get back to work. ((hugs))