baconeggs posted 8/31/2020 16:43 PM

I am currently in an inhouse seperation with WW. This weekend is fathers day and I plan to take the boys 4x4 driving on a beach that we normally go to and spend the day with them. Given that the STBXWW and I are in the same household, should I invite her along as well so they boys (age 18 and 15) can see us getting along as well as keeping the peace. A large part of me doesn't want to as the affair and seperation was her doing (I wanted to try and reconcile) and I want to teach her a lesson so to speak.

J707 posted 8/31/2020 17:05 PM

I wouldn't do it as a teach her a lesson deal. I would do it with your boys and their Father deal. Go enjoy the day, your day, with the kids without her. You can still keep the peace at home.

LadyG posted 9/1/2020 04:25 AM

Just do your Fathers Day with your sons. It’s your Day.

As a BS, I had to remind my children last year about Father’s Day but WH was busy with AP so didn’t even notice the kids.

I am not going to remind my children this year. STBXWH destroyed my Mother’s Day, 2 years in a row.

You owe your STBXWW nothing, Not even a lesson.

Tigersrule77 posted 9/1/2020 08:29 AM

You M is ending. Everyone needs to accept that. This is the new normal, you may as well start it now.

Do NOT invite your STBXWW. Accept that you are separated, soon to D. It is better for both of you, and your kids.

baconeggs posted 9/1/2020 16:34 PM

thanks everyone, I will just tell her I am taking the boys 4 wheel driveing for the day