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Divorce/Separation :
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 somejaykid (original poster member #68835) posted at 4:16 PM on Thursday, September 10th, 2020

alright guys need to vent here, it's been 9 months now officially that I've been divorce, for the most parts I'm doing great keeping myself busy with work and taking care of my awesome two kids. on my decree parts of the agreement is my WW is suppose to refinance the car she drives under her own name WWEEELLLL she didn't do it yet and she missed a couple of payments so now the finance people of the car company is calling me every week asking if I can pay the late fee's and everytime I talked to them I always say's the same thing that we are no longer together and she suppose to refinance the car, uugghhh this always give me anxiety. my credit score was 800+ when I got my new car and a couple months ago I check my credit score and plummet to the 600 you can only imagine how pissed I am about it. me trying to move forward with life and my WW is still dragging me with her in the mud with this bull crap. i don't understand why her boyfriend won't help her pay the car payment the guy practically drives the car everyday *big assumption here* i mean if i were in a relationship and my girlfriend is in need of financial help i sure as hell will help her with it for the most part. anybody in here in the same situation as i am? any advice is really greatful

jay

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hcsv ( member #51813) posted at 4:54 PM on Thursday, September 10th, 2020

She is in contempt. File contempt charges with the court. You can do it yourself and save the legal fees. It's just going to continue if you don't do anything.

In addition, the courts dont like contempt and will very often pass the costs of filing and any legal fees to the party not in compliance with the decree.

After 40 years, ex turned into someone I didnt know and couldnt trust anymore. Divorced. 1/17

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Charity411 ( member #41033) posted at 4:59 PM on Thursday, September 10th, 2020

If it's in your divorce decree, you should be able to get this off of your credit history.

I discovered an additional credit card in OW's name issued on a credit card account I had, which I hadn't used in years. She charged over $10,000 on it and never paid. She changed the address on the account to her and my EX's house pretending to be me because I was the principal on the account and was the only one who could make changes. I discovered it when I went to apply for a mortgage. Because all existing debt was recorded in our divorce decree, and that wasn't disclosed, (because it was illegal) it was wiped off my credit history.

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HalfTime2017 ( member #64366) posted at 9:21 PM on Thursday, September 10th, 2020

Definitely go after her in court. This is not a small issue. And if you let this go, it will be something else. Sometime, with these people you have to go the legal route to get their attention.

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The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 3:56 AM on Friday, September 11th, 2020

An you take the car back? Is it in your name?

Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.

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 somejaykid (original poster member #68835) posted at 4:53 AM on Friday, September 11th, 2020

An you take the car back? Is it in your name?

technically yes I'm the co signer of the car, I don't want the car back when I gave her the car to her it was in pristine condition my cousin saw her recently and told me that the car was beat to hell scratches every where and the interior is nasty. if she want's to sell the car and get out of debt. that's on her all I want is to take my name of that loan period

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 somejaykid (original poster member #68835) posted at 4:58 AM on Friday, September 11th, 2020

Definitely go after her in court. This is not a small issue. And if you let this go, it will be something else. Sometime, with these people you have to go the legal route to get their attention

that's where it's going I don't want to ever go back to court but she left me no choice AGAIN uugghhhh

If it's in your divorce decree, you should be able to get this off of your credit history

I'm hoping that would be the case

She is in contempt. File contempt charges with the court. You can do it yourself and save the legal fees. It's just going to continue if you don't do anything.

In addition, the courts dont like contempt and will very often pass the costs of filing and any legal fees to the party not in compliance with the decree.

good I hope this would be the case I don't want to spend another dime in court I have my kids to take care of, I hope she get's all the lawyer fee's

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