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Would love to share her pic with someone here!!

I haven't felt jealous in a long time. And today I looked at facebook at OWs pictures and now that the rage is gone and the jealousy died...i took a good close up look at OW. She isn't very attractive at all. Teeth are kind of messed up, she has crazy eyes, and I am almost laughing. I want to tell WH "go get her!"

On top of that, she has an ugly heart and was ready to step over me to take my life for her own.

If she was someone of strong moral character, she could be pretty in her own way. But her inner ugliness combined with her ho hum looks makes her look hideous and insane....and I don't care how important of a career she has or doesn't have. Ugly is ugly.

I definitely have some anger still. But the thought of WH and OW no longer fills me with that jealous rage.

[This message edited by Spelljean at 8:24 PM, May 24th (Friday)]

You can send me a PM if you want, Spelljean.

I didn't know the OW. It took me awhile to find a picture of OW, but I finally found one. I wasn't sure it was OW as it has a very common name for this neck of the woods. I kind of blindsided FWH with OW's picture and he turned a ghastly white and looked like he was going to puke. He said yeah, thats OW and it hasn't aged well.

Yeah, maybe it was always that ugly, you just had your rose colored glasses on and all the rainbows farted by unicorns obscured your vision.

Anyway, when I objectively look at OW, I wouldn't say it was downright ugly. I don't think anyone would ever have said it was pretty, though. Just your average looking middle aged midwestern woman.

However, I know the ugly inside of it and that overtakes its even marginally average looks and just makes OW the ugliest c u next tuesday ever!

But the thought of WH and OW no longer fills me with that jealous rage.

That is good, Spelljean. Really nothing to be jealous of, is there? (((Spelljean)))

On top of that, she has an ugly heart and was ready to step over me to take my life for her own.

^^^^^^ That right there.

Doesn't matter if they are physically attractive or not, their inner ugliness shines thru.

XH's main OW looks like a cross eyed tranny. On DD, I screamed at XH that she was a dog. He was furious! The longer this terrible thing was in my life, the more hideous she became. Her deeds have made her utterly loathsome.

I have actually met 3 out of the 4 OWs that I know about.

When I first saw OW3 without thinking I blurted out to FWH "But she looks just like your mother!".

He was gob smacked. Later when I looked at her pic I realised it was true and not just wishful thinking on my part

So I guess you could call my response objective!!

Laura

(((Spelljean)))

I obsessed over MOW's looks for the first couple of years post DD. She was so different than I am and that was hard for me for some reason.

I showed a picture of her to my old college roommate and she said, "she's cute" which is not what I needed to hear. Truthfully, she is kind of cute. We're just so different in every way.

I needed my friend to tell me she was hideous but that friend would never lie to me to make me feel better.

Ultimately, she didn't matter to my exfwh, she could have been anyone (his words). He was a mess and this was his crappy coping mechanism to medicate his combat PTSD and deal with being a first time father.

In my case, MOW was cheating on her deployed husband (my husband had just redeployed). That made them both the worst kind of gross in my opinion. I was nursing a 10 month old and 8 months pregnant with our second child. He had sex with both of us. I got an STD that caused our daughter to be born 5 weeks early. She almost died. This makes them both ugly.

Physically, she is 5'11, mousey brown hair that she dyes red or blond typically, over 200 pounds, nice boobs, nice face, big ears and cross eyes. Between month one and three of their PA she lost close to 50 pounds so looked really skinny when he ended it. She has 4 kids.

I am 5'7", 110 not pregnant was 147 the day I delivered....so overweight at the time of the PA. Dark brown hair and eyes, small chested and I modeled professionally for 10 years. I hold 3 degrees and was making over 100K at the time of the PA. Both the MOW and my exfwh had never been to college and were unemployed.

I am very religious and neither of them believe in anything religious and they are both very promiscuous and I have only had one partner.

Looking at it all written out, they were a good match and I was ill matched with exfwh. We just didn't have any of those things in common.....we had other stuff but ultimately they were not as important.

Anyway, I guess my point is, her looks don't matter. Neither do his for that matter. They should have been honest. They should have controlled their impulses and they should never have broken their vows.

I felt in the beginning OW was pretty. Mostly dressed very very nice w a great body. It took time to realize she wasnt pretty at all. It was the package. Small blonde. 20 yrs younger. ANd every look alike since then still captures his stares. I learned OW is now running again, and also joined a gym. Again. And we just discussed affairs at gyms last week on this website. She talks about her body on facebook. SHe is usually involved or trying hard to get a man if she works out this hard. Shes now 36. ANd never married. If find that funny.

I saw 3 of the OW. They were all pretty.

2 were skinny with long dark brown hair and blue eyes.

1 was a little bigger, dark brown hair and brown eyes, but huge boobs.

When I first saw OW's FB I thought she was pretty, thin and big boobs. I met her in person and was rather floored. NOT at all what I thought she looked like. I knew she was heavier than me but couldn't tell just how much since she was sitting. When I met her the 2nd time, she was standing. I almost puked. She is NOT attractive in any way really, sadly. We won't even talk about her size, which is actually SMALLER now than when he first met her. She was playing pool and I snapped a picture on my phone. Sent it to Wh and that wasn't what he remembered. Of course it wasn't.

I want to tell WH "go get her!"

I went through a phase where I wanted to do this SO badly. I wanted him to go be with her and see what it was like. OW is completely shallow and twisted (preached religion to him while they were committing adultery - omg) and quite possibly crazy. I would have loved to see what their "life" would have been like once it involved anything other than getting drunk and screwing.

As to looks, I've never met her but WH says she's bony, plain, and her hair looks like it's glued on (???? - lol). Oh and she talks too much and is "dippy". And of course it goes without saying that she's easy and without morals.

Whatever.

I think when we first find out we assume OW must be some amazing creature, but it is true when they say,"they always affair down". WH insists she is less than me in every way. The "nicest" thing he can think of is that she drinks like a man. Which unfortunately was integral to the situation, since in his little mid-life meltdown he equated "partying" with "youth".

So, nothing real or good or sweet about it or her. Nothing there to be jealous of.

I couldn't get past the fact that she was 16 years younger than me. But once I got a good look at her picture on Facebook I couldn't believe it.

She is 41 and lives with her mother, never married.

I showed my H her picture and she just looked....not very feminine. Had her lips injected and just yucky! He also lost all the color from his face and shook his head.

The icing on the cake was when one of her bosses said to me post DDay (he did not know of the affair) that she was ugly inside and out. He called her Mr Ed.

[This message edited by crestfallen at 9:33 AM, May 25th (Saturday)]

Send it to me! I'll even exchange for a photo of mine! Ugh!

I'm clinging to that ugly on the inside thing...

My OW, 23 now, 20 when A started, is beautiful...she just is...She's athletic, tits that point to heaven, perfect skin, beautiful eyes and hair...My H texted her that she was the most beautiful woman(?!) he's ever seen.

I'm 48 and pretty average, but I am one smart bitch! There are all kinds of beauty in this world and all kinds of ugly. I knew OW had an ugly soul when she introduced herself to my son as my H's girlfriend...now that's ugly.

I too would love an objective look at the OW. I know that it didn't really matter who she is, she is just his shiny new toy, that's giving him lots of attention. I have seen the two of them together once - I thought she looked like a woman going through a mid-life crisis. She's 46, been divorced for 5 years and is anxious to remarry. She had her hair piled on top of her head in some sort of fan, heavy make up, short, tight black skirt, tight black jacker and high heel shoes. The pig's sister said that she's only met her a couple of times and her only comment, was that she wears high heels.

He brought her to a charity event for an organization I volunteer for and of course, the people that I work with told me that I am much prettier, but they sort of have to. She's very busty, I am not. I know that they like to party, because the last time I was at the marital house, there was several bottles of wine and vodka out. When he was with me, he only drank when we went out or if friends came over.

Spelljean, feel free to PM her picture and I will give you my opinion. There was a post - about how they always affair down and it was really helpful to me to read it. The skank approached the pig and he was more than willing to dump me at the curb and take up with her. He's a wealthy man, so I am sure she is in it for the money. Hope she takes him for all she can.....Whatever is left over after the attorney's and me are done with the divorce!!!

I don't know if I can mention her name her and have you check out her FB page and let me know what you think of her.

Yes having trouble posting pics in the PM section. Could be my ipad too.

There might be a solution here...brainstorming.

I first met OW when she was dating a friend of ours. EWH had met her before me, and made a big show (now, in hindsight) of telling me how old she looked, and gangly/bony she is(I am curvy), and how he couldn't understand what our friend saw in her. He even made fun of her name. It's Regina, but he would refer to her as "Reg-EYE-na Vagina". When I finally met her, I thought she was quite pretty and didn't understand why EWH was saying such mean things about her. Now I know he was going to such lengths because he was intensely attracted to her.

While she was dating our friend, we socialized with them, went to dinner, dancing etc. They spent time at our house, and in our hot tub. Oh how I love having the visual memory of her practically naked, in just a little string bikini. That's made the mind-movies HELL, as I can picture her and my ex together with such clarity that it's nauseating. I wish he'd chosen someone random that I'd never met, talked to and spent time with.

Feel free to send it to me Spelljean. It is cathartic to share

Perhaps I could suggest an appropriate avatar for her?

I have a pic of ow on my phone. My DD got it from her DD instagram...bet mines fuglier. Lol.

My ipad won't cooperate with pic posting!

Fwh OW used to be good looking in her younger years. Years of drinking too much wine and not taking care of herself have taken their toll on her. Her attraction is in her outlandish behavior! She has a great personality if you go for someone who 's mantra is:

I don't repeat gossip so be sure you listen close!

To everyone...

Before it even starts...

Do not post pictures and/or names of the OP's. This is not a revenge site nor is this a place to out anyone.

Feel free to vent but no pictures, URL's and names.

Thanks