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Okay, so after a horrible Wednesday night in which I drunk-dialled STBXWW's best friend, and then sobbed on the couch for a couple hours, I decided that I'm going to take a vacation from drinking.

I have my boys here every weekend, and usually I have a couple glasses of wine while frying up our steaks on Saturday night. I don't get drunk, but usually have a bit of a buzz on.

Tonight, we discussed how I wasn't going to drink for a while because it may be contributing to my depression,

As I was forcing our ten-year-old to clean his plate, he joked, "I like you better when you're drunk."

I responded, "What a coincidence. I also like you better when I'm drunk!"

It was just one of those warm, fun moments when we insult each other. Life has some good bits too. I need to remember that.

I sooooo get the loving insult. It's how I was raised. Funny how people around my family thought that meant we weren't close and that we didn't like each other. When D-day hit...my family circled the wagons, dropped everything and 'made shit happen' for me (Even though they are spread out across the country)

Now people can't believe what an amazingly supportive and loving family I have

I like your boys (thought about their poster when I was in bed this morning, wondering if I should roll over and sleep longer!). I like your honesty with them. Cutting down drinking (no more than one for me) really helped keep myself out of that shitty place where I wanted to end it. Now that I've got the habit established, I rarely drink more than one. And I enjoy the beer now, I don't use it for escape like I used to.

ETA: My family still lovingly insults each other

[This message edited by tesla at 7:16 AM, May 26th (Sunday)]

I so get this. I have had to tell people that I use teasing as a form of affection.

I think it's great how you discuss this stuff with your kids. I think it shows you're a real person with real problems and handling them in a good way. Great role model for them.

Thanks guys. My boys really are the coolest.

All I learned from my parents was how to avoid expressing emotion and talking about anything. Example: They quietly gave me a book - and fled the room - instead of having the sex talk.

As a result, when it comes time to discuss difficult things with the boys, I have no idea how a reasonable parent does it. So I just shoot from the hip, and my boys seem to respond to that.

In my family we say "teasing is our love language" quickly followed by "if we don't tease you, it probably means we don't like you"

That has actually proven true of a few guys I've brought home over the years.

In my family we say "teasing is our love language" quickly followed by "if we don't tease you, it probably means we don't like you

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That's exactly how our family is too. If we're not teasing, we're just not that into you.

It was like that w/XH, too. That I miss ...