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I am beside myself with what to do to get myself to stop wanting him to call me. We have been reconnecting a bit through phone calls and seeing each other at work. I find myself hoping to much that things are going be okay. Then today we talked this morning and now I haven't talked to him all day and I find myself getting quite anxious. I can't get my mind off it

(((savvy)))

I hear ya girl, loud and clear! Every time my phone goes off I hope it's him but it never is. I even called him today around noon to discuss our daughter's comments to her counselor and also to discuss bills that are due and child support. He let my call go to voice mail. Acting like a little child having a temper tantrum because he didn't get what he wanted; his cake and to eat it too!

Deep breaths my dear!Have you thought about going and getting on some meds to help with your depression and anxiety? I think that is helping me quite a bit; just took and anxiety pill because I could feel all these issues coming up again; and now I'm much more relaxed. It's just a thought!

I hope your evening is better! I'll check in on you tomorrow savvy!

Hugs

[This message edited by stilltrying2025 at 9:05 PM, May 26th (Sunday)]

Hi stiltrying

Thanks so much glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. And yes I'm on anxiety and depression meds. They have helped! He actually did call tonight just to say hi. I hate how I can't wait to talk to this man who has betrayed me and has hurt me to the core!

Hugs and strength to you!

[This message edited by savvy at 9:27 PM, May 26th (Sunday)]

I totally get that, savvy. When I first moved out, the Princess and I were talking a few times a week to just shoot the shit. I even told her that I loved and missed her. All this despite the fact that I was the one who decided to kill this 17-year poisonous marriage.

I told her last week that I can only talk about the kids - and preferably via text - and she is having a much easier time sticking with it than I am..

You'll eventually get past it, sav. Hoping I do as well!

Same here. I want him to text or call. I am disappointed when I get a text and it is not him. When phone rings tho I know if him or not because he has a special rings and his pic pops up. I have to nearly chop my fingers off to not call/text him.

I will hit you over the head with the same 2x4 that I get hit with. Do not call the person who caused you this pain. They know where you are and where to call when they make up their mind. Nothing you do or say will influence their direction other than push them away further. You must detach for your own sanity. Turn your ringer off and check it once or twice a day. Change the ring tone of your ws so you know immediately it is or isn't them.

I try and invent reasons to call or text stbxww. None of it does me any good. I need to practise what I preach but I'm getting better at it. I find that a few hours or a day without contact makes me stronger. Remember that you have been fired from your spousal role of carer. Care only for yourself and children.

Hugs