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brkn_heartd (original poster member #30396) posted at 8:44 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
My H affair was at during 26 year of marriage. Tonight, we are going out and celebrating our 30th year anniversary ( a couple of days early). It has been a hard 4 years, there is no denying that. However, I am glad that we have been able to work towards reconciliation. My heart and soul is relaxing, I do not feel like I am constantly on vigil. He has worked very hard to help me heal and help me to feel comfortable. I still have my days, but they are fewer and fewer. I don't think of the A every day anymore.
Tonight, we are dressing up, and having a quiet nice dinner to mark our 30 years. It has been 30 years of love, pain, fear and hope. I am glad that we have continued to work on our marriage.
For those starting through the path of reconciliation, it is not easy, and both have to be vested into the success of your marriage. However, the pain does ease and life does start to return back to normal. I am not totally healed today, but I am so much more healed than I was even last year. Just know, there is hope.
Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 9:17 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
What a beautiful post!
Wishing you a happy anniversary .
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
fallingquickly ( member #36599) posted at 9:19 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
Happy anniversary. I am very happy for you.
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
Shattered-Heart ( member #32165) posted at 10:06 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
That's lovely.
I'm glad it's working out well for you guys. I'd give my eye teeth to not think of it every day anymore...
Me BW Him WH "The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 11:01 PM on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 8:33 AM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
Great post and Happy Anniversary.
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
Undone1 ( member #37683) posted at 5:38 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
You give me hope!
Undone1
Married 10+ years to my high school sweetheart
DDAY 10/27/12
Me 55
WH 55
Blended Family: 25, 21, and 20
Married 10 years
"The Universe Unfolds as it Should"
brkn_heartd (original poster member #30396) posted at 8:41 PM on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
Thank you everyone. We had a very nice evening last night.
Shattered heart, it was actually about 2 months ago that I noticed a day had passed that I had not thought of it. Now, I may have 2-3. I never thought I would get through a day without thinking about it either.
Undone-there is hope, time heals so much (as well as a lot of hard work! )
Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
Shattered-Heart ( member #32165) posted at 5:32 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
I hope to get there to where I don't have it intrude into my daily thoughts like you, really the sooner the better but I'm realistic and know it's not happening anytime soon. Still, gives me hope it might just happen eventually...
Glad you had a lovely anniversary, wonder what you guys did? I'm still at a loss for anniversary and bday stuff. Think I'll create a new thread about that actually.
Me BW Him WH "The trick is to keep breathing." - Garbage
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 5:58 PM on Saturday, June 8th, 2013
Nice!
Happy Anniversary!
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
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