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gardenparty (original poster member #12050) posted at 2:12 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
ended things with SO of 3 years today. It was not dramatic, no yelling, no fighting, basically me just saying that I want out. We have a house together so getting out will not be that quick but I want out. Now I am second guessing myself. I feel in my heart that this is the right move for us both but what if it's not. I am so lonely out here without my family and friends but is that a reason to end what has been a pretty decent relationship?
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 2:19 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
(((((GP))))))
So sorry, I know you loved this guy but didn't you discover him cheating? Sorry if I have your story wrong, I haven't read all the posts here lately.
What happened?
I'm sure this is really hard.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 3:42 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
(((gardenparty)))
I'm so sorry. I hear you. Some steps aren't easy to take. Sending you strength and big hugs.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:23 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 5:02 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
hang in there (((gp)))
You are strong. You are not in limbo. Second guessing happens. I like to make lists. Somehow seeing the reasons WHY written down is concrete and somehow reassuring.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 6:15 AM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 4:16 PM on Monday, June 10th, 2013
Of course you're second-guessing. It's a hard decisions, and a big one. Just remind yourself of why you made that decision.
Fear is the biggest thing that keeps us in a bad relationship. If that is the only thing making you reconsider, then you have made the right decision!
Be strong, gardenparty. You can do this!
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
Broken hearted61 ( member #34931) posted at 10:32 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
I agree with what Pass said regarding fear. For me fear can be paralyzingly.
BGF (50) me
WBF (50) him
DD#1 02/23/2012
TT 03/19/2012
Working on R (03/21/2012)
It's over: 5/5/12
seekingright2013 ( member #37991) posted at 10:38 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
(((gardenparty)))
I like what another poster said about making lists. I find that writing things out clarifies the issues in my own mind.
Also, LOVE your username 
Hang in there.
“I tramp a perpetual journey.”
― Walt Whitman, Song of Myself
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 11:19 PM on Tuesday, June 11th, 2013
Are you comfortable with the reasons you ended it? I am sure you thought about it long and hard....and I am not sure what the reasons were....
I know it is easy to second guess yourself. But generally, when I end a relationship, I know I did the right thing. If you feel you did the right thing, then don't let the fear of loneliness or being alone change your mind.
(((gardenparty)))
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
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