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 MissesJai (original poster member #24849) posted at 5:19 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

Please someone tell me it gets better. I'm about ready to punch this boy in the damn throat. Typical teenage stuff - it's just wearing on me today... Ok, I actually feel a bit better.

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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 5:24 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

It tends to be much better from sunrise till noon . . . when the teens are still asleep.

ETA being on the West Coast why is your teen awake this early?

[This message edited by MovingUpward at 11:25 AM, June 27th (Thursday)]

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 MissesJai (original poster member #24849) posted at 5:27 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

LOL Moo. Sounds about right.

why is your teen awake this early?

oh because I woke his ass up - he had my car keys, which he left IN the ignition, with the doors locked, with the radio on ALL NIGHT which equals a dead batter in my car. I can't with this kid.

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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 5:29 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

That makes you wonder how coherent he was when he got home. Honestly, any thoughts that he might have been drinking and driving?

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 MissesJai (original poster member #24849) posted at 5:39 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

He wasn't drinking & driving. He doesn't have his license yet. He was sitting in my car with his friend listening to music waiting for his friend's sister to pick him up. I reminded him umpteen times not to forget my keys. He did it anyway.

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MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 5:42 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

Whew. Glad he was just being a space cadet.

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 MissesJai (original poster member #24849) posted at 5:51 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

yeah that part is a relief. He's just on my nerves today. He graduated HS this month and has yet to find a job. He's starting college in the fall. I'm just more frustrated that he's not working.

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lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 5:52 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

I'm about ready to punch this boy in the damn throat.

I can empathize. I feel like this most of the time lately.

No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.

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 MissesJai (original poster member #24849) posted at 5:54 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

I find myself feeling like this more & more since he turned 18. I know it could be worse and he could have MAJOR attitude and be in all kinds of shit. I'm grateful that he's not a dad, not a delinquent, and not a total asshole. He still works the hell out of my nerves, though.

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jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 6:17 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

My one and only child is only 11, soon to be 12 and he's already a space cadet... If it gets worse I may lose it.

(((MissesJai))) I hope you and your DS survive.

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GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 6:23 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

I have a DD who is 20 and a DS who is 17.

DD is the messy/slob of the two. She is also more similar in temprement to me than she is willing to admit, so we bumped heads a LOT through her hormonal years.

When she was 18, I nearly had to throw her out (send her to live with her father) because of the lack of respect, etc.

We made it through the school year and got her installed at college.

What a difference!! Between being away from home and living with other people (who were bigger slobs than she is), when she came back home, I would have sworn she'd been replaced by an alien clone.

A little "world experience" will go a LONG way in turning a teen into a human.

ETA:

My kids are still "vampires" though. During the summer, it isnt unusual for me to bid them goodnight, but hear them at 3 or 4am still downstairs chatting and playing games. The next day, we dont see hide nor hair of them until 2 or 3pm in the afternoon!

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 2:28 PM, June 27th (Thursday)]

Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)

WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).

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 MissesJai (original poster member #24849) posted at 6:36 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

A little "world experience" will go a LONG way in turning a teen into a human.

I know this is true - I've seen it happen with DS's friends.

I need wine.

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GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 6:49 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

I need wine.

This helps too. It may not solve the problem, but after the second or third glass, you dont care nearly as much!

Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)

WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).

I edit often for clarity/typos.

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 MissesJai (original poster member #24849) posted at 6:49 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

after the second or third glass, you don't care nearly as much!

LOL that's precisely the intent!

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letitout ( member #38288) posted at 7:30 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

I've already had my 2 glasses of wine and it's only 10:00am! (just kidding).

My H just left for overseas for 3 weeks and I'm getting the taste of single parenting. Hats off to you all who are single parents. Don't know how you do it.

I have 17 yo boy/girl twins and they are totally opposite in nature. My DD is a real slob and ungrateful when she gets privileges. For example she just got her first boyfried (and first kiss). She picks him up from school and I tell her to come back right away. She was gone for 3 hours! She said she got lost and the GPS wasn't working. She has a PHONE! use it. She wasn't responding when I called her. Last night she was out on the beach with him way past dark and I didn't know where she was. Again no phone call.

I want her to have some freedom but not to the expense of me having a heart attack.

My DS is just the opposite. He is so considerate and polite.

Same Bday's, same upbringing. I just don't get it.

Oh yea, I also get the spacey thing. It's maddening.

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Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 7:32 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

This too shall pass. Have a glass of wine or two.

And try not to punch him in the throat - the authorities tend to frown on that type of thing. BUT - I TOTALLY understand the urge!

NL

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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 7:51 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

I know you want to be nice to him, but ... stop giving him the keys?

And make him make the arrangements to get the battery charged....

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GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 7:52 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

I know you want to be nice to him, but ... stop giving him the keys?

And make him make the arrangements to get the battery charged....

Agree!!

He just lost that privelege AND should have to make things right.

Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)

WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).

I edit often for clarity/typos.

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 MissesJai (original poster member #24849) posted at 7:55 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

He just lost that privilege AND should have to make things right.

Great ideas. They will be implemented immediately.

I know you want to be nice to him

actually, I don't. That urge to punch him in the throat is still lingering.

ETA: INAB has him outside doing yard work - cutting & edging the lawn, pulling up weeds, etc. Mind you, today is the first day of a "heat wave" out here - so he'll be laboring in the sun. And I think it's beautiful.

[This message edited by MissesJai at 2:20 PM, June 27th (Thursday)]

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click4it ( member #209) posted at 10:30 PM on Thursday, June 27th, 2013

((((misses))))

OH HOW I CAN RELATE TO WHAT YOU JUST WROTE.

I'm still waiting on the get better part.

Glad he is being put to work!! Sometimes I think that is the only cure to when they are being jerks!!

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d-day 10-02-01

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