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rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 5:18 PM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
I took pictures of my DD's best friend crossing the finish line at this morning's half marathon. Thought it was important to be there since her parents couldnt. Looking at the pics when I get home I see OW #1 in the background with her kids, waiting for her buffoon of a husband to cross.
I thought I saw her there but didn't know and now I see her on pictures I took.
Asked fwh and he didn't see her. I said I shouldn't have to EVER see them! He said I know And its all my fault. We were having a great time this weekend at our towns celebration.
grrrrr......
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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 5:25 PM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
:( That sucks; I'm sorry. Photoshop?
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 5:25 PM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
(((rachelc)))
I have no advice just empathy. I have found that since dday life is just a bit too ironic. Things come up and bite you in the a$$ when you least expect it.
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 7:34 PM on Sunday, June 30th, 2013
Ha! My DD just tagged me in a picture of me watching her friend cross the finish line - the photographer must have taken it- and OW is there too. Yay! now OW is in a picture on my Facebook page. Nice.... I asked her to untag me....
And as fwh was there too, he is also tagged so OW is now on his page too. Ugh
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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 12:11 AM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
'Buffoon of a husband' - that cracks me up, rache. Thanks.
No idea what to do about FB.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
RockyMtn ( member #37043) posted at 1:18 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
Can you untag yourself? I can't remember if that's possible. I do know I used to have my settings where I'd have to approve all tags (in posts, photos, etc.) before they went live. Not that this helps now, but it could prevent it in the future.
I laughed at the buffoon part, too.
Me, BS, 30s
Him, WS, 30s, Steppenwolf
Kids: Yep
D-Day 1: September 2011, 6 week EA
D-Day 2: January 2013, discovered EA was a PA; there was another PA in 2010. All TT.
Goal = serenity.
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 1:50 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
Photoshop?
Exactly what I was thinking. Replace her. Just think of all the images you could replace her with. 
In all seriousness, I'm sorry this happened. So not cool.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 1:54 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
I removed it from my timeline but I can't untag myself. DD has to do that. I also can't edit another person's photo on FB and I destroyed my pics.
I told fWH that I had a great weekend with him but that this thing really hurt me. I can't get away from them.
He didn't say anything. What is there to say. I said I hope this isn't a death by 1000 cuts for me.
painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 1:55 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
Get that 'make me fat' app, make her fat, and repost.
And yes, the 'buffoon' comment also cracked me up! I haven't heard that word in years, but I love it!
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D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
FeelsSoRight ( member #28377) posted at 4:07 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
If you can't phohtoshop it, can you crop it and crop her ugly ass out altogether?
Me - W - 48
Him - H - 47
Together since we were 14/15
Married 27 yrs in August (renewed our vows in 2011-H's idea!)
DD-23, DS-15
Separated for 7 mos & were 3 wks from divorce when we reconciled
Happily R for almost 4 years
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 4:57 PM on Monday, July 1st, 2013
Get that 'make me fat' app, make her fat, and repost.
YES!
authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 8:45 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013
FeelsSoRight,
There is no OW namecalling in R. Please follow the Reconciliation Forum guidelines.
Thank you.
DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.
rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 9:01 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013
I don't want to waste any time on her. I just feel I shouldn't be subjected to ever seeing EITHER of them. I just saw her kids at the pool. Ok.
I also am thinking about the thread on the choices we make. If the choice I make is stating with my husband, must I also accept all this?
As I said in the other thread, after what I've been through, it shouldn't be this hard to stay together....
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 12:24 AM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 2:10 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
Ugh....effing pictures.
My dday was at a huge block party my neighbor has.
He is not our friend or a friend of the marriage anymore (probably never was).
After dday I found out just how many people knew about the A. That fact made me need to vomit, separate from the A 
About 2 weeks later my neighbor posted pics of the party....it included pics of me and OW together, happy, smiling. He tagged it and said "happy neighbors"
And he knew.....Bastard.
It took me a few years to stop looking at it. I never said anything to him because I know he did it to be mean....and I didn't want him to have the satisfaction.
ugh!!
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 11:17 PM on Wednesday, July 3rd, 2013
(((rachelc))) Ugh you can't seem to catch a break. These OW always in these photos, newspapers and whatnot. 
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 6:41 AM on Thursday, July 4th, 2013
My IC says when I've had enough ill know....,
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