Hobbeskat,
To me, it sounds as if he blew you off. However, you cannot just assume he gets that he hurt you by going to this meeting.
I know it's a catch 22. On one hand, he wrote you a beautiful note recently, but did he show you by actions that he truly feels that way? You know what I mean?
Did you step up and tell him how much this hurt your feelings, and how you feel tonight? If not, how would he have reacted to you had you pointed it out?
I don't mean to scold you. I want you to look at the situation and see if perhaps this is a miscommunication on both parts.
Yes, he should be more in-tune, but it takes a LONG time for them to get it. A LONG TIME. It does not come naturally usually. Mine gets it, but still F's up sometimes.
It takes a really long time to not be sensitive. I still flip a cookie very often if I don't like his tone. Give yourself a break.
Do sit down and tell him how you feel, exactly how you feel, and what would help you through this right now.
I used to hold my tongue, suffer in silence, and let things go. We know what happened.
Now, I let nothing go. If it bothers me I say it. He does too. Most of the time it's an understanding talk about how we feel, sometimes it's an angry snap. But crap, we're married!! And he's lucky we are! Actually, we are both lucky, but it's work every day.
((hobbeskat))
